My wife won't let me _______? What should I do?

Question

I would really like to have some backdoor action with her...but she is not cooperating....what should I do?

Answer 1

Wait tell she is asleep.

Answer 2

As a woman I can totally understand how she may feel. She my feel like you have lost interest in her in other things, not sexually. You have to cater to her and see what may be the problem. I’m not saying you have to wait on her hand and foot. Believe me there’s nothing like pleasing my husband, but sometimes there’s not enough time if there’s children in the house or it may be the way you are coming at her about it. Take your time and talk to her. Try to remember the things that she likes and do those things. Let her know that you are here for her, and no one else. Make her feel like you are touching her for the first time. If that does not work than maybe you and your wife should seek marriage counseling. I pray all goes well.

Answer 3

Here we go again.

Listen, anal sex was not meant to be. So if you want to do it, you have to do it right.

First thing is to talk to your wife. If she is not willing to do it, then you have to drop it. You cannot force her to do it if she doesn’t want to. This applies not only to anal, but to oral, and to anything out of the “ordinary”. Is just like she would ask you to bend over because she wants to get a big dildo up you’re a$$. Would you? I don’t think so. You need to talk first.

But if she is willing to at least try, then you two need to get informed about it before you actually do it. Basically, she needs to be clean, and so should you too. Some girls use the shower hose and clean up in there so is really clean inside too. You would appreciate that probably.

Then, you need to have lots of lube. Forget about following porno movies. Spiting on it will not help for first times unless you have unlimited salivation supply. It is easier to get some real lubrication, and make good use of it.

To make it easy for her, inserting a finger first is the best idea. He anus will get use to it. And it must be done slow. You don’t want to hurt her. She can also do it herself if she is afraid of you hurting her. Let her be comfortable.

She will know when she is ready. The key is to relax. In fact, if she does the push motion with her muscles, it will open up the muscles and insertion will be actually easier and not painful at all. If she does the opposite (holding the PC muscle) it will hurt if anything tries to go inside her.

To make things easier, you should lay down flat or sit in a chair and let her do everything. That way she is the one in control and can do as she pleases. And never hesitate to add more lube.

If you guys go slow at it, she can get use to it, and she will be able to find pleasure out of it. Don’t forget, there are thousands of nerves down there and the sensation is unique. And it is in many women the only way to hit real good her G Spot (I bet you didn’t know that one).

If she likes it, she will do it again, just make sure to do it when she wants it. Eventually you can also start asking for it, and she should be happy to do it.

Don’t forget also that there is bacteria down there, so keeping it clean is a very good idea. Still, if you switch from the rear to the front door, you will be moving bacteria there. It is usually not bad as long you two are not sleeping around with other people, and both of you are clean. But if it bothers her, then use a condom and remove it when going to the front door (this is recommended all the time anyways, but not everybody does it and they are all fine).

My Wife and I have enjoyed anal sex for a long time, we started it just as I described it to you. She was not sure about it at the beginning, now she is more than happy with it. Still, we don’t do it all the time, but when we go at it, we have lots of fun.

Hope this helps.

Good luck and have fun!

Answer 4

Let it go, do not become obsessed with this you will live to regret it. All women are not porn queens and from my experience women don't like that type of thing, especially the wife, girlfriends are more open but the wife has done pretty much all she is willing to do now that your married. :lol and that is the truth, take it from a man who hasn't had a BJ in almost 7 years.

Answer 5

Some women are very uncomfortable with their bodies and the idea of anal sex makes it worse. Sometimes it is just a matter of being unable to handle the pain. Has she ever tried it? If she has and doesn't like it then I suggest you just get over it. But if not ask her to try, and give her a little incentive.

Answer 6

Don't push the issue if it is something she is not comfortable doing then lay off for a while Maybe one day she will let you
then she will discover a new feeling when she reaches the big o

Answer 7

give her a turkey sandwich (tryptophan baby) and a glass of wine. wait til she passes out and have at it. the other alternative is to find a gf that likes that. my gf absolutely loves taking it that way. when i told my wife how my gf loves it, she got pretty mad so i would recommend not telling your wife. the best way is to actually get your wife and gf in bed together and then SHOW your wife how much your gf gets off on that. when she sees that, she'll change her mind.

Answer 8

this has nothing to do with gay or not. between 2 consenting married adults there is nothing shameful or dirty about it. my husband and i do this often. he likes it, its VERY GOOD FOR ME. lots of nerve endings in the area that dont normally get excited. make sure she is willing to try. if she will please, please let her set the pace. there are topical cremes that can help, this is a huge trust issue, no matter what she finally decides be a thoughtful and gentle lover. and lube lube lube!
dont badger her, ask her to research the subject with you before making a decision. we love it. ignore the people that made gay / sick/ nasty comments. they are WRONG!

Answer 9

I guess you'll just have to hit the bath houses for your "back door action". Just don't touch the wife until you get the results from your STD tests.

Answer 10

Allow her to give you a little back door action with a toy.....see how you like it. If you let her do that she is likely to let you try it once. Chances are, you will never ask her to do that again.

Answer 11

Maybe you should stop thinking about yourself so much and think about her. I told my husband that he could when I got to shove a cucumber up his. Keep that in mind.