i know a girl who is married off at the age of 17 against her full consent , and her husband who is 10 years elder to her makes constant referance to her age and always mentions about a second marriage .
she is really troubled , but she has decided to do higher education against the wishes of her inlaws . she wants to be a doctor !
sometimes her husband seems really sweet which makes her think of dropping everything and get settled , but sometimes he hurts her terribly with her words . what should she do ?
2007-03-13 02:43:01 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She should do what she wants to do! Wasting her mind on being a house wife is probably one of the worst things she can do. It's not right. She can always have children once she gets her career started. My mother worked and my siblings and I turned out just fine. In fact, I think my sisters and I are more sucessful (relationship and education wise) and my brother respects women a lot more than some men because we learned what it means to be a real and educated woman instead of some dumb baby making slave. House wives make crappy role models these days. She needs an education and a career to be a good mother to her children.
2007-03-13 02:50:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
dear rose,
the marrige in itself is unlawfull as the girl age is monor and the husband is more old then her then our basic thoiughts of 3 to 5 years . as you asked about her discisins from her inlaws side, yes they will effect her life very much and because she is small in age and a minor too and i donthink that her husband is allso supportiong her so the inlaws will trouble her, but leave the marrige and get divorce or so omething is not a good idea because many times these things ruin life. so in this cast the girl shouls study further with any way with kindness policy towards there inlaws.
she should get her husband in trust and made him in confidence that is more imporatnt too.
may god help her and all get well, bye!
2007-03-13 10:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by Sidd 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, I can only assume she was "married off" due to cultural beliefs. That said, she definitely needs to continue her education and become that doctor. That is the only chance she has to obtain true freedom and start a new life. Once she obtains that license she will no longer be dependent on her husband, parents, or in-laws and she can make her own decisions. I wish her the best!
2007-03-13 09:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think her future should be determined by her but it should be clarified by her well wishers.But i don't think that 17 is the age of getting married and the age limit that is given by Gov.as 18 should be abolished as i think that to achieve something in your life you have to wait for 24 at least.
2007-03-13 10:08:44 · answer #4 · answered by Sayan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this marriage is an illegal and inhuman act done by her guardians... may be her parents... it is really a very critical situation...
the 17 year girl who is living with her new family has left with very few options to fulfil her dreams... doing something against the wishes of her elders in her new family would be harmful for her peaceful married life... she should convince her new family and go ahead with her mission with full consent and support of them...
all the best to her...
2007-03-13 10:28:49 · answer #5 · answered by Harish Jharia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Her inlaws. Man gets her wife mould in his way. At that time she is too depended on him since her father had left her without any education. so she is swept the way river water flows.
2007-03-13 16:30:54 · answer #6 · answered by larry G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
according to me the girl should must go for higher education. this would gave her a stability in life and will make her self dependable. she may be able to take any decision freely without any fear of life ahead if her husband performs second marriage.
2007-03-13 10:29:27 · answer #7 · answered by chandan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She should thinks about her future instead follow what in laws asked her to be.If she want to do higher education then go for it..Remember we can't always expect what happened in the future,maybe the husband have mistress or maybe we used to get to be fooled again by husbands..Think wisely
2007-03-13 09:49:10 · answer #8 · answered by zakaria z 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
His inlaws should decide her future for her. She is too young to think for herself. She needs to abandon this "pipe dream" of being a doctor and stay at home and raise a good family. Her destiny has already been decided....she should not mess with fate.
2007-03-13 09:48:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
This could be considered child abuse and rape in the United States since she married against her will and is underage.
What country is she in? Where are her parents in this mess and why aren't they speaking up?
2007-03-13 10:17:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋