Getting married in a Baptist Chapel on Saturday....I am so frustrated I want to scream. I do not want to be politically incorrect...but I have to be. This man is gay...but married for 25 years. He has taken total control of our ceremony and I have grown to hate him (also politically incorrect but true). In our counseling sessions all he does is talk about himself. My niece was going to light a candle for my Mom (who passed away last year) and had written a beautiful tribute to her - short and sweet-three lines. This man wanted to "tweak" it....you can't tweak love. I insisted it not be changed - not one word. I ended up removing this entirely from the ceremony because I was so frustrated with him. Not really looking for answers...I just need to vent. I left the church and cried the entire way home - not from sadness from frustration.
2007-03-13 02:36:26 · 5 answers · asked by Bride To Be 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First off, if he is in fact a Baptisit Minister, he isn't gay. Secondly, it is YOUR wedding, stand up and tell him to hang it up. Find a different person to preform the ceremony because I can assure you, if he is doing things you don't like right now, he will probably do something in the ceremony you will HATE. Hopefully you will only get married once and whatever goes on on your special day will be remembered forever, espcially if it comes from the Minister preforming the service.
2007-03-13 02:45:53 · answer #1 · answered by ladybugg0224 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your wedding! Your special day! I would not let anyone take that away! You do it your way or go to someone else to perform the wedding ,that will go along with your plans. Evidently he didn't take his vows seriously from what you mentioned in the above paragraph. I wouldn't want to be married by this person to begin with! Counseling? He sounds like he needs the counseling! OOOH! He has been living a 25 yr. marriage LIE! Run for the hills... Get yourself a new pastor to perform this ceremony. I wouldn't even feel my marriage was blessed, having him perform it! God Bless you!
2007-03-13 09:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by Godlover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath and remember it's about the MARRIAGE, not the ceremony. Unless you want to change the date, try to relax a little bit and just enjoy your day. Weddings are stressful...I feel your pain!
By the way, you may want to consider another church after your wedding. :-) Congratulations!
2007-03-13 09:50:44 · answer #3 · answered by loves2sing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the proper thing is to look for a different Church Minister to marry you and your boyfriend if its is confirmed that he is a gay. I believe there are fine men of God who serves God's people in pureness and integrity.
2007-03-13 09:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by mbuoro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is YOUR wedding or HIs? Take control now...
2007-03-13 09:43:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋