I'm fifteen and want a baby should i???

Question

ok i'm fifteen i'll be sixteen in december i'm not straight i am bi and i haven't told my girlfriend how i feel about this yet i don't have a b/f though but there is only onee person i want to be ma babys dadddy nd his name is tj .I have g=felt like this since i was around ten and i never really knew why until recently about a few months ago i want a baby cuz i kno i will be a perfect mom nd i want to give my baby the love care nd attention that i never had i don't have a job yet but if i want to get one i have it forsure cuz my mom's friends with everyone i kno i would be a great mom i would do anything for my baby but i am also scared to have one cuz my dad would go balistic and so would my mom i have had a few scares before and thought i was nd it turned out i wasn't nd yes it was all with the same guy the one i mentioned earlier tj the love of my life but ne ways if u have any advice for me please comment this but please don't be that cruel about it
Mandie Renee

Answer 1

Please listen when I say that you are too young. I don't mean that in a cruel way, I'm just being honest.

There is a lot more to taking care of a baby other than love. You will need a job and you will need to stay in school. So of course you will need someone to take care of your baby when you are out. No more going to the mall and hanging out with friends, or movies, or sleep overs.

Babies demand a lot, more than you will ever know. At least until you have one.

Please please please, wait until you are out of school and have a steady job and can truly care for a child.

Answer 2

Good God No !!!!!!!!!! Honey , you are only 15? You have not been to the prom or learned how to drive. You cannot legally get a job right now, you need money before the baby comes as well. You have not taken your s.a.t.s . or visited any colleges. You are not totally sure about your sexuality, you can't even go clubbing, which is not important but you might want to some day. If your town has a curfew , you have to be in the house at a decent hour, who can legally go get formula at 3 a.m.? You will need insurance for you and the baby. Ever dreamt of going to Florida or some where else for Spring Break with your friends? Can't do that with a baby. What kind of job would you get? You can't type worth a darn. I f your mom knows everybody, then baby sit an infant for an entire day. Ever had surgery? Having a baby freakin' hurts. It is fantastic that you love babies , maybe you could go to college and have a career helping children, there are certainly enough of them out there that need help. One other thing , it would not be fair to your parents. They most likely will be taking care of you and the baby, I am sure they are thinking about retirement for their future , not raising another child. Please think about all of this. Go get on some birth control, until you are 100% positive you want to do this.

Answer 3

My dearest Mandie, I understand what you are feeling! You think that if you have a baby you will have someone that will love you no matter what happens in your life - you are correct! You will but if you have a child now will you be able to give this baby everything he or she needs in life. Not just love but the necessities??? I was 15 when I got married and 16 when I had my first baby. I am now 35 still married and happily I might add, my son is now 18 and if I had to do all over again I would of waited till I was older to have a family cause I didnt know ME! What you want now may not be what you will want in 3, 5, 10 or even 15 years from now. I can not make the decision for you but, think about it sweetie you have your whole life ahead of you and a bad decision now could make your life hell later.... God Bless! and Good Luck!

Mom of 3 =)

Answer 4

Questions like this make me wish I had a tranquilizer gun full of Depo-Provera. *headdesk*

Honey, you are FIFTEEN. You can't even legally have sex. You don't have a job or any money. You don't have supportive parents. You're not married. From the above, you have the writing skills of someone far below your age. The last thing on this PLANET that you need is a baby.

In all brutal honesty, you sound like an untreated depressive. People with depression very often indulge in lots of booze, overeating, drugs, sex, new relationships, and pregnancy as a means of filling up the terrible emptiness they feel. What they're really trying to do with the compulsive behavior, the promiscuity, the substances, is elevate their endorphin/oxytocin/serotonin levels. Then, of course, the happy hormone haze recedes, and they grasp at the next fix any way they can.

What you sound like you truly need, is a prescription for antidepressants and a Norplant implant or IUD.

Answer 5

Dude having a baby isnt all fun and games. That **** hurts. Your squeezing a baby out of a hose. you gain about 20 pounds that are very very hard to loose, you get strechmarks all around and for the first 4 months or so, you can not sleep even if you wanted to. They cost ateast 250 dollars a month, Then theres the responsibility, you wont be able to go out anywhere till its old enough. so thats about 4 years( if your responsible) You cant be a good mother with out a stable life and a good education. Being a good mother isnt all about you and how you will treat the child, its about what you have to offer, and right now you have nothing to offer. When you do have a baby, youll be glad you waited.

Answer 6

I'm sorry but You are NOT ready for a child I know you probably think you are but it is hard. Babies grow up and having one means you will never be able to go to college and get your dream job you won't get to do anything. A child limits you I think you should wait. Although you think you would be a good mother and I won't doubt that you are barely starting your life wait a couple of years maybe get a job finish school and even travel. see the world then have a baby. IT is A HUGE responsibility. and not to mention a lot of money. Hope you make the right decision.

Answer 7

Gimme a break! At 15 you don't know what you want yet!! Your still a child yourself. You are NOT ready in any way, shape or form to be a mom! To bring a child into the world now would be the worst thing you could do! WAIT, live your life, be a kid and enjoy it now. Believe me, you'll miss your youth enough when your older but if you throw it away now you'll regret it the rest of your life. It sounds to me that you have a lot of growing up to do (as do all 15 year olds) and your NOT ready to have a baby. Please live your life first. Get your education and then a job and one day when your married and STABLE then think of having a baby. But not now! Please think twice before you do this. Being a good mother means putting the babie's best interests first! You would not be doing that by having a kid at 15 when you yourself are still a kid and not emotionally or financially ready to have a baby.

Answer 8

You may be the perfect mom but if you cant keep a good job and have your own place then youll be a bum. It wont be fair on your parents to live with them or your bf parents and have a kid. You still need to attend school and get a diploma so your child when you do have one will have a parent who can take care of them and if you cant drive thats a big factor and there will not be other people to take off of work to take you or your child to the doctor. Just think about all the things that you'll need and dont have and how expensive it all gets.

Answer 9

What is this world comming to? Why do kids want to throw thier childhood out the door to raise a baby. Do you realize once you have a baby the fun is over with! You will have to sacrifice everything. Why would you want to make those sort of sacrifices at such a young age, you have plenty of time to think about being a mother. Get you education without out it how can you possibly raise a child? I mean come on look at your grammar to start with. I am not trying to be cruel but dont you want to raise a baby when you have a good education a good career and are financialy stable or would you rather raise your kid on welfare at the age of 16? The choice is yours but I think your making a mistake on that will affect you and the child.

Answer 10

i was in this same boat, almost exactly, 2 years ago. only i was 14. and my girlfriend was 18, and my boyfirend was 15..... talk about a love triangle.

i wanted a baby soooo bad, i knew that i would be a great mother, and that i could take care of it. i knew that i would love it, and i despretly wanted someone that would love me forever, and i though that a baby would provide that.

so i told my bestfriend (not my g/f) and she was really excited. so we started doing research, and made like an ovulation chart, and everything. i was dead serious about it. i had the dates all planned out, and everything.

only, when i told my g/f, she was like......... "you have so much going for you, dont screw it, up.... but if you think it is what you want, i will back you." she and i had had a couple scares, with her and an ex, and we thought that she had been pregnent at one time. we both wanted a baby, we just wernt real sure that i should have it as a freshman.

well, my b/f and i broke up, like a week before everything was sapose to happen. so i never got my baby. but i look back now, and i am actually glad. he/she would be 15 months old now. and somedays, i see a little kid in the store, and i am like, ya know, i could have had one of those, i could have done it..............

so i would say wait. if you want a kid that badly, you will eventually have one. but for the time being, finish high school, get your diploma, and then think about it.

do a lot of baby sitting, so that you can have little kids in your life, but when you need a break, you have one. volunteer at a church nursery, or a day care center.

get your little kid/baby fix, without getting pregnent. at least for now

Answer 11

Aww hon, I was in your same situation 12 years and 3 kids ago :)
When I was 15 there was nothing in the world that I wanted more than a baby of my own. Just know that, you want to be stable enough to provide for your child. You need to have an education, a job, health insurance and enough money to support yourself. I know that feeling though, it can be as strong as needing to breathe. It gets better though. I had my first child when I was 20, I was done college, had a job, money in the bank and I still wasn't prepared for motherhood. It worked out, but not even close to the way that I wanted it to. Talk to a non judgemental adult face to face about this. You shouldn't have to go through this alone. Just know that every mother only wants the best for her children. You want to give your child the world and at 16, you just aren't ready to do that. I promise.

Take Care