If you're married is it right to fantasize about other people?

Question

If it is right, shouldn't we be willing and able to share the fantasies with our spouse without them freaking?

Answer 1

Yup only act on it when masturbating by yourself! Why would you share these with your spouse? What would be the point? Do you think you should? Personally, I think these sorts of things are best kept to ones self. If you do that, you're not hurting anyone.

Answer 2

A fantasy is just that. I don't see a problem with it, but some people are very insecure. Also, it would depend on who you're fantasizing about. If it's someone close to the person, I wouldn't share that with your spouse.

Answer 3

It depends on each person.

Usually, there is not problem with it as it is a fantasy. Most people have had a fantasy about someone else, and usually is famous people that you see on TV, or movies, or magazines.

If you read Maxim magazine or Playboy, you know what I am talking about. And I always hear girls after coming out of a movie from some famous guys like Vin Diesel, and they are all melting and wishing they could lay their hands on him…. LOL

We like to look and desire. Is normal human behavior, and some have the chance (and are lucky enough) to live some of those fantasies, most don’t.

If you like that, and you wife too, then what the heck, share them and have fun! It usually ends up with steamy sex. My Wife and I some times tell each other about fantasies, and we both have been lucky and have been able to make some a reality. We talk about them, and about fantasies we had had, and we try to make them real in bed sometimes, and we do have lots of fun.

Both of you need to be open minded to accept the fact that he/she is thinking about someone else. But is ok as long you don’t cheat for real and your lover is ok with it as well.

Good luck and have fun!

Answer 4

Some people don't want to share anything much less a fantasy. I think fantasies sometimes are the only thing that holds some marriages together.

Answer 5

It is natural to fantasize as long as you don't act on it. It isn't wise to share these fantasies with your spouse. It will bring pain and misery to both of you.

Answer 6

Some wives end up getting into the fantasy a lot and then want to act out the fantasy. Then they want to blame you for ruining them.

My fantasy was to watch my wife with other men in the sack. Now my wife tells me she wants to try it and that my fantasy has effected her.

So be careful with fantasies that involve other partners male or female.

Answer 7

I don't know if it's right or not. For me.....I just don't. I'm happy in my own marriage, and there is no need to fantasize about other people.....

If I have a fantasy or a desire, of course I share it with my spouce. He isn't threatened because they always include him, revolve around he and I.....

Answer 8

As long as you don't ACT on your fantasies. But do not share these fantasies with your mate. That's just inconsiderate and wrong. If my man came to me with fantasies about other women I'd cut his nuts off. It's one thing to think about it and quite another to verbalize it! Keep yer trap shut if you don't wnt a divorce!

Answer 9

if it's just a fantasy it's OK but don't act on it, you can share this with your spouse as long as it's not hurtful to them

Answer 10

I am not married, but I still would never tell my boyfriend ANYTHING that may potentially hurt him or make him question my loyalty to him. Besides, he is a bodybuilder and has the HOTTEST body of anyone I see and I don't want anyone but him anyway.

Besides, I don't waste my precious free time fantasizing about strangers...thats just stupid to me.