I became single 6 months ago and started hanging out with some old friends from high school. One of the girls ex-boyfriend use to hang out with us as well. They dated for 4 yrs and have been seperated for a year. The reason they broke up was because she cheated on him with the guy she is with now. Well..me and her ex became friends and started hanging out. We had a good time and I ended up staying at his house and from that point we started to like each other. Well she found out and now we are no longer friends (of course). Her own sister told me that she thought that we would make a cute couple (talk about a good friend). I know what I did was wrong but sometimes in life things happen for a reason and you honestly can't help who you like right?!? What should I do?
2007-03-13 02:10:58 · 15 answers · asked by anonomous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well My daughter is going through the same thing right now and my advise was this. If the person is a true friend they should learn to deal with the fact that there ex makes thier best friend happy it did not work out for them. But does not mean the person is undateable to any one it sounds like plenty of time has passed for you to keep her feelings from being hurt. So go for it life is to short to waste time. My personal time limit for dating a best friends ex is six months. for some people that is a long time. You have surpassed that time limit so there should be no issues. I waited a year and a half before dating my ex's best friend and we have been married now for 11 years.
2007-03-13 02:20:37 · answer #1 · answered by squekie0874 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are distinctive factors. How close are they as a pal? How quickly did they sleep mutually with your ex? How grew to become into your breakup mutually with your ex? How did they divulge this to you (if in any respect). It relies upon on the area. If the guy grew to become right into a detailed buddy, yet a real looking volume of time had elapsed, say some months, and that i found out, I cant say i may be offended. If it grew to become into right this moment after breaking apart with them, and it were a undesirable breakup, then i may be very offended. It somewhat comes all the way down to the specifics of a difficulty. hopefully that's powerful in supplying you with some inquiries to ask your self in case you're uncertain the way you sense approximately it.
2016-10-18 06:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering they've been apart for an entire year, over HER cheating, she really has no right to be mad. She's probably a little disturbed by the fact that you've now both been with the same guy...but if it doesn't bother you or him and you're happy with each other I say go for it! She'll get over it. If she doesn't, there's really not much you can do about it. BTW none of this has to be everyone's business! I'm not saying sneak around by any means but it wouldn't hurt to keep your personal business personal.
2007-03-13 02:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by Maudie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depend if she was a close friend or not. if was a close friend,
you should be ashamed of your self. You had no right hanging out with your friends x-man, it does matter if they broke up tens years ago. If i was your friend i would done the same. Anyways there is nothing you can do about it now, but in the future i hope you learned. That should you never valued the friendship you had with her in the first place.
2007-03-13 02:18:12 · answer #4 · answered by Monica D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It should not be a really big deal, since they did break up a year ago. You can keep it to yourself and avoid the person ( always a possiblity) or rather so you can confront the problem and do what you feel is best. If you like him so much then you should go out with him. And it was HER fault so you are not to blame. It's her loss. And it's your life. If you are not going to take him then someone else will sooner or later. So go with him and if she gets pissed tell her "It's your loss".
2007-03-13 02:17:46 · answer #5 · answered by Vagrant//A.I. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never understood the issue of dating a friend's ex, unless it was right after they broke up. If she cheated on him, I don't see why she's upset if you're seeing him.
Continue doing what you feel like doing. Unless you somehow broke up the relationship (which it seems you didn't) she has no right to dictate who you can and cannot date.
2007-03-13 02:14:32 · answer #6 · answered by MBE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she cheated then her morals aren't the right place to be judging you b/c you guys are seeing each other. She may be jealous. I would not worry about her as a friend and just be happy. Some people want to see other people unhappy so that they can feel better about themselves. good luck
2007-03-13 02:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is really no reason why she should have been mad at you. She decided to choose the path and cheat on him in the first place. You didn't do anything wrong. If you really enjoy his company and you aren't doing this just to make her mad then start a relationship with him.
2007-03-13 02:16:49 · answer #8 · answered by Sondrahhh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe if she wouldnt had cheated on him, she might have still been together with him. You didnt do anything wrong. If shes got a new bf she shouldnt care. But i wouldnt worry about it. she'll come around sometime.
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2007-03-13 02:42:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that she isnt worth bothering with it sounds like a case of i dont want him but neither can you, well i say tell her to get a life me and him are together and loving every min, we spend together, you make the most of a good man
2007-03-13 02:16:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋