I have been waiting for a potential partner to someday marry, however, there are men who seem to get angry or hurt because I am not interested in them. I do want find someone while in the mean time be sensitive to not hurt the ones I am not interested in. Because I am a Christian does not mean I should feel guilty because I don't take interest in certain men. They think I should be compassionate and loving and forget about what I want in a man because I am being "selfish" I have two children to think of and they seem to expect me to overlook a lot of things. I feel bad that they are hurt but I shouldn't have to feel guilty over it and I know if I gave them a chance, they would start trying to "convince me to change my mind about them which is why I don't get anything started. What should I do when I sense they are showing interest? I know it sounds arrogant to assume they are but I have know them to try to save their ego by throwing it back on me. this puts me in a bind any advice?
2007-03-13 02:09:24 · 5 answers · asked by java348 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
sorry I didn't mean to send the question here but thanks for being curteous
2007-03-13 02:35:52 · update #1
Forgive me, but you do realize you're asking this in the Gay and Lesbian section right??
2007-03-13 02:13:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just out of curiousity, why shouldn't Christians be able to ask questions in here? Not all Christians are fundamentalists.
To actually answer your question, if you believe that these men aren't good for your children, or for you, then you don't have to continue going out with them, it isn't selfish not to like someone, and being Christian doesn't mean that you don't hurt other people's feelings sometimes.
2007-03-13 10:40:34 · answer #2 · answered by Taryn C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you certain this is the appropriate place for this question?
Be in happiness.
Reyn
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2007-03-13 09:18:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
(If they ask you out)...you say..."Oh... that is so nice...but I am gong to have to decline"...or..."You seem really nice...but I'm just not interested in going out"...or.."You seem really nice...but I am really not doing the dating thing...I am just waiting on the direction of the Lord"...Who is going to argue with that...Be Blessed.
2007-03-13 09:15:10 · answer #4 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i like what the second person said
2007-03-13 09:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by Brandi S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋