I hate her and love her at the same time. The first 5 years of our marriage was our golden period - two lovely kids and a loving man&wife and no financial burden and bright future. The first battle was over the debt her parents failed to repay me and she sided with them and soon it escalated into a war. But we never hated each other. I asked her to cut off her relation with her parents with or without money. She began to treat me like a loser like her parents did from the beginning as they did not like me. I , who hated drinking , took to it, twice a week at the beginning to 4 times later, never more than three beers. I risked my money in some ventures to end up broke after 13 years of our marriage. We seperated twice during the period and I always asked her to come back which she did only after a nod from her parents. Now she fell in love with her rich classmate and blames me for her affair while I am picking my pieces working 12 hours. I feel sorry for her but do I deserve this?
2007-03-13 01:49:59 · 6 answers · asked by havah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That guy is happily married and they were in email contact for 6 months and met once. She chose me over him and now the tables are turned. I don't see any logic behind this all as nobody gains anything by it, but all have something to loose.
2007-03-13 01:52:29 · update #1
She said she cut it off and the affair was nver that serious. She says I drove her to this by my behaviour, getting drunk and picking up quarrels after her prolonged nagging. I did it in the past worse and I stopped it as I seriously considerd it a blunder. We moved to a city and she had her opputunity to email and meet this guy as it is his native place.
2007-03-13 02:08:30 · update #2
no u don't deserve this, but bad things sometimes happen to good people, seems as if the parents have much control over her, and no matter where u move her she can still contact him. she should not blame u for her choices in life, the sin is hers, but how many people are really willing to admit it, and take blame, not many. seems as if this lady's motivation is money, if u got it your okay, if u don't your nothing to her. her parents are users and should have repaid u what they borrowed from u. u do not deserve to be treated like this, maybe get out of this marriage if possible and move on with your life.
2007-03-13 02:42:15 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My gosh, how terrible! She sounds like she was probably spoiled by her parents long before you came along, and although she may have tried to change, she just can't. For someone to blame their spouse on an affair they had is just ludicrous! You didn't force her to have sex with someone, she does have free will. If you two will not seek counseling, things will probably get worse, and parents and in-laws do not belong in a marriage. If she is in love with her class mate, then it sounds like it's over anyway, but if you want to save the marriage, then you really do need marriage counseling.
2007-03-13 09:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she blames you for the affair, then she hasn't accepted responsibility for it, hence you cannot forgive her.
Unless this happens, your marriage cannot be saved.
2007-03-13 08:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by Disco Stu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds like you're better off without her. Let her go.
2007-03-13 08:56:05 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump her not worth the problems it will cause
2007-03-13 08:57:27 · answer #5 · answered by bluelitttt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch that ho.
2007-03-13 08:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by Lothario 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋