I just posted something on having mixed feelings about being pregnant... i'm 18 years old and im 4 months pregnant my baby is due aug 23rd... i need some advice from women that have had their babys young i am happily married although i am young but, my father and many other adult keep telling me im ruining my life i just need advice thanks :)
2007-03-13 01:44:29 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If you are happily married, don't worry about what others think. I always look at it this way. When I'm 40, my kids will be almost out of the house and I can play more with hubby because we will have more money. All my friends that waited till they were almost 30 to have kids won't be able too. There are pros and cons to having a baby this early. Just relax and enjoy your pregnancy and then enjoy being a family.
2007-03-13 03:01:12 · answer #1 · answered by punkin_eater26 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't ruin your life, having a baby is wonderful. What do they expect you to do? Abort it when your 4 months gone? They are only worried about you, but it's no good putting all this pressure on you because you really don't need stress when you are pregnant. Instead of making you miserable they should try and help you all they can. When your child has grown up, you will still be young enough to enjoy all you want to enjoy. By the way I had a baby when I was 19, it's hard, don't get me wrong. But you have so many wonderful things to enjoy too.
2007-03-13 01:49:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I got married at 19 and got pregnant about 2 months later. I had my daughter when I was 20. I was back in school when my daughter was about a month old (she if 4 now). One good thing about that was I qualified for financial aid and they paid for school and sent me a check every semester. If you are worried about finances there are programs like WIC that will help you with formula or a breast pump and food. It is definitely possible if you are determined and trust me once you have the baby and hold him or her for the first time you will understand. I am not saying that there were not times that we struggled but if I had the choice to do it all over again I would. Best of luck to you and the hubby.
2007-03-13 01:54:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! I am 24 with 2 beautiful daughters. I had my first daughter when i was 16 years old and my second child at 18. It is very scary at first because i was a very young Single mom! Its very rewarding to be a mother and i do not regret having my children. I wont lie to you, but your life will completely change after having a child.
It's hard as a single mother, but in your case you are in a happy marriage and i'm pretty sure your husband will be by your side 100%! My mother told me i ruined my life, but after i had my first child she was thrilled. I proved to her that i was able to support my children on my own. I currently have a rewarding career, just bought a house and my children and i are comfortable.
Just keep your head up! You can do this! Email me if you have further questions..take care sweetie..xo
2007-03-13 02:01:40 · answer #4 · answered by xtina221 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well there is no reason to get upset now, its already done, you just have to accept that you are going to be a mother. I understand that people tell you that, thats because they just wanted you to so what you wanted to do in your life before having kids, like go to school or go on a trip out of country just things like that. If you are happy then dont worry what everyone else thinks, I was a few years older than you before I got pregnant with our daughter but I can understand what you mean. Good luck
2007-03-13 02:31:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was a little girl, I always played "House" and used my dolls to pretend they were my babies. I always wanted to be a mommy. I am the proud mom of 3 kids now! My point is, if this is what you want, then go for it. You are not ruining your life in having a child. A child will change your life, no doubt. You will make lots of sacrifices. However, you have been blessed by the miracle of a child. Enjoy and make the most for this child.
2007-03-13 01:49:42 · answer #6 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 00:16:47 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was 17 when i gave birth to my first son*who is now 5 yrs old* and my family were amazing. the father however was a complete.... well u can fill the blank. he was selfish and was a bully.. ur so lucky to have such a loving husband.. tell your family that your really happy and will manage.. that you would like their support at this special part of ur life.. im currently 8 months pregnant with my second son *2 boys arrghh* and my current partner is really supportive.. his mother was shocked at first but came around to the idea :) goodluck tho
2007-03-13 01:53:47 · answer #8 · answered by lovelyinpink_uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 18 when i had my daughter an i wasnt i in a steady relationship my partner at the time denied my baby and i ended u livin in homeless shelter for young mums, my nan asked me to give my daughter up for adoption bu i didnt listen i stuck it through and theres not a day goes by when i look at my little girl and thank god i didnt listen she keeps me going when everyting seem to get on top of me just to see her smile or run over and give me a hug and a kiss
my advice to you is see it through because at the end of the day its so worth it
2007-03-13 01:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by infinate_angel 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i am 21 i am pregnant with #2 my first is 18 months old. i was terrified when i got pregnant i thought at 21 i was suppose to be out drinking and having fun all the time, what was going to happen to that haha, then this little thing inside of my stomach, kicked and something inside of me snapped and all my anger and fear of being pregnant disappeared, i couldnt believe that i was about to bring an innocent life in this world, a real human being, i was going to be someone's mom.
honey you are not runing your life, believe it or not you are making it so much better, i could not imagine my life with out my son, and the little bundle i have kicking inside me as i type, its the most amazing thing and its normal to be scared, but trust me it will go away and you will be filled with nothing but excitement!
congrats to you and your husband, best wishes. i hope he or she is everything you could have hoped for.
2007-03-13 01:51:11 · answer #10 · answered by puppy love 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋