4 months pregnant and having mixed feelings?

Question

Im 18 and 4 months pregnant with my first child at first i was scared then i was happy and now i don't know what to feel me and my husband live together and we are doing ok finacially but im worried that when the baby comes things wont be good any more, my baby is due aug 23rd and i would love to go to school to be teacher but im not sure if i will have the time or the money to do it... what should i do?

Answer 1

don't worry when you pregnant us girls get really emotional hormones and everything so just relax it is nerves and stress so try to keep focusing on the good keep healthy you can still teach with a baby most teacher have baby's or children

Answer 2

I think it is normal to question your ability to be a responsible mother. It is difficult for anyone (especially 18 year olds) to take on the responsibility of another life, no matter how responsible and financially secure you are.

However, since you are pregnant, you need to begin looking at ways to prepare for your baby. I am a teacher, and one of my best friends was married and pregnant in her first year of college.

She continued to work on her degree - then she had her second child with her husband.... now working even harder! It took a bit longer, but with a lot of support she did finish college and has since gotten her Master's Degree in Education, and is a wonderful teacher!

You need to be extremely conscious of your decisions and do everything you can to save any money! My friend did NOT go out and party all weekend like a lot of college students, but she is so glad that she made the decisions she did and has a happy healthy family!

Answer 3

you could try applying for financial aide and for a daycare grant that may be offered at a local college when you are ready to start that step in your life. Just because you are having a baby at a young age doesn't mean your life has to stop or be a dead end when it comes to eduacation. I would like to suggest though that you wait until your baby is a year old to start college. That way you and your husband have had the chance to adjust to the roles of parenting. I was 19 when I had my first son, and 26 when I had my daughter. My kids are my life, then there is the job, the house, ect. But my kids are always first in my life. Good luck, and congratulations!

Answer 4

Honey, what you are feeling is perfectly normal. All new mom's (or mom's to be) feel this way at some point. There's nothing wrong with it. You and your husband just need to remember to keep the lines of communication open with each other. My husband and I have had our share of "squabbles" since our son's have been born. We always talk things over and do our best to work things out, or come to a compromise. As for going to school, you can do it. You can do anything you set your mind to. I have been putting off going back to school for my RN since I received my LPN almost 10 years ago. I am going to do it this coming fall. I finally said "enough was enough, I am not putting it off any longer". You can do this. There are tons of grants and student loans out there. Check with your college's financial aide department. Keep your chin up hon! I wish you the very best and I hope that everything works out for you & your family!! Congrats!!!

Answer 5

You are very young with many years ahead of you and you will be fine. The baby won't change you or your husband. Sure there will be a little more work but that can be dealt with. I would not be concerned but focus on what you need to do to become a teacher and start thinking about how to accomplish that.

Answer 6

It'll all work out. You can still go to school after you have a baby. Once you hold that baby in your arms for the first time, your thoughts will all come together and you'll know that you can do it.

Answer 7

Don't worry....every mother goes through this....I am too. I'm 29, financially stable, & ready to be a mom...but now there are a million questions going through my head....can I handle this? Can I go back to work & be a good mom? Can we REALLY afford a baby? Will this hurt our marriage....
They're all natural questions. Don't worry. It will all work out how it's supposed to. You may have to put school on hold for a while, but if it's what you want to do, you'll get back there!

Answer 8

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Answer 9

You are young, it's natural to have mixed feelings, it's also very normal. You sound like everything is OK. I can only speak from personal experience, but when my son was born, it made my relationship with my husband stronger and I love him even more now. You always go back to school, it is never too late, you can do anything you set your mind to. Feel free to email me if you have any concerns or need to talk. Good Luck.

Answer 10

A baby will change everything and you won't have much time for yourself -- especially in the beginning. There's not much you can do about this now. If you want to go to school, I hope you're family and friends will support you. Or you can look into daycare. Good luck.