hey! Just wanted to know if an arranged marriage works better in the long run, as you will need to spend more time discovering each other. But on the flip side you'r marrying a total stranger! how weird is that. Waiting to hear what you guys have to say on this matter- I'm keeping an open mind.
2007-03-13 01:01:28 · 21 answers · asked by filmyguy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Arranged marriage can turn out fine, only if the two fall in love with each other. But what if they can't stand each other and fight all the time? Then it's hell, too complicated.
I think a love marriage is always better. I also think that you can't fully know a person, there are always secrets people don't share. It's a rsk to take but that risk is smaller if you are in love with the person.
After, it's all a question of character and of choice, do what you want but think about your acts and the consequences before.
2007-03-13 01:21:43 · answer #1 · answered by cd_77777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love marraiges are with for preferences, not your families. In an arranged marriage the bride and groom are asked for their choices too. These days they are even allowed to date. It's not only the parents who decide. Secondly, parents choose the one who could be compatible with whole family and not just the son or daughter. While people opting out for love marriages rarely think about compatibility of their spouses with their family.
Couple involved in arranged marriages require more time to understand each other. However, people involved in love marriages are no better. They believe they understand their partner until they get married. Later, a lot of things are a discovery to them.
In arranged marriages, we wonder about our compatibility with the partner. I love marriage, we wonder about our partners compatibility with our family.
In India, success rate of arranged marriages is far higher than that of love marraiges. In the west, where love marriages are predominant, divorce rates are far higher. Abstract forms of relationships have come into picture.
Marriage is like singing a duet song when you know nothing about the rhythm and the lyrics. Both involved should contribute perfectly. They gotta know when to pitch in and when to stay mum. They gotta balance the melody when the other is out of tune.
Be it a love marriage or an arranged marriage, if the partners are not committed, it just won't work.
As far as my personal experience is concerned, I found arranged marriages successful to a rate of 99 percent (All I know who went for arranged marriage are happily staying together), while the success rate of love marriages was just around 55 percent. My experiences cannot be counted on as actual statistics of the globe. But I do believe in the role you play in your marriage. Nothing succeeds unless you put some efforts from your side.
All the best...
:-)
2007-03-13 11:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on you , your family conditions, and the place you actually belong to.
E.g In gujrat the girl goes to her would be grooms home and stays for 15-20 days there after she is accepted/unaccepted by the family of groom.
If you go towards UP,Bihar there is nothing called love marriage. It is just bargained marriage, Girls family had to pay dowery let it be any class or caste or status
If you are really asking something for your knowledge, I would always prefer to the choice of love *** arranged marriage. But you know that hardly you can find such girls who are matured to know the exact meaning of love to carry on as per our culture and tradation.
New India with you youngsters should be vibrant but at the same time should not loose the shine of your culture.
For me love does not mean rev party, love is some thing that helps both of you to understand properly and know the extreams of each other on various issues.
Build your pillers of marriage on strong foundation of love, sincearity, faith, truth and trust. The more we speak out every thing to our partner the better is the scope for survival, blossam and bloom of our married life.
2007-03-13 01:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was strongly against arranged marriage So i did love marriage but trust me sometimes still i feel i dont know my husband,I feel he is a total stranger.My love marriage is in such a position that it can break any time.I love him very much.I left every thing bcoz of him.I went against this whole world but what i got ????
Its not arranged marriage or love marriage!Its our destiny That how will be our marriage life.
2007-03-13 06:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by sherry 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In one way I feel it is necessary that arranged or love marriage,the parents on both side should be satisfied: Love or arranged marriage,it must be fixed after checking and verifying all the matches: If anything differs it must be discussed and after mutual agreement it should be fixed:
Horoscope is not the only test: do all
blood,HIV,marriage eligibility test and etc;
2007-03-13 04:54:56 · answer #5 · answered by ar.samy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's funny when people discuss Love Marriage vs Arranged.
It's like asking someone, if suicide is better or being murdered
2007-03-13 03:17:56 · answer #6 · answered by G 2 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there is a difference between arrange and love. In arrange U people are stranger and may newly married couple takes time sometimes the life may spoil. Where as in love marriage U people know each other and can understand each other but sometimes U may not some habits of his/her so U may be unsuceessfull it depends on FAITH.
2007-03-13 01:08:17 · answer #7 · answered by Rumana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arranged marriage or love marriage don't matter, it is the right person that makes your marriage life good.
2007-03-13 04:41:14 · answer #8 · answered by yogasun2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Arranged marriage is the best. Before it is arranged inquiry is done for everything & after getting fully convinced from all angles only engagement is done. So, why such imaginary apprehension ? Of course, after love affair many negative points of the person r bypassed which r problematic later.
2007-03-13 01:40:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
arranged marriage and love marriage both are same. except your parents in this world everybody were strangers till you meet ones.
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2007-03-13 01:16:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋