How do you deal with a fiance's vengeful ex-wife????

Question

My life parner and I have been together for over seven years now, and are very much in love. He is the most gentle, caring, honest man I have ever known. I knew going into this that his ex-wife was extremely hateful, cruel, vindictive verbally and physically abusive. How do you deal with someone who cannot act like an adult, and continuely calls me, hangs up and calls me racial slurs??? (There are also his children involved in this) and the phone calls are being made to my parnter's and I business so we cannot block her phone number.... Help please!!!!!

Answer 1

Record the calls, document all the crap, then get a restraining order. I've gone through the same crap with my x and it's a *****. ... so is she. Run it through the legal system and stay snow white. Don't give her any ammo to throw back at you, just make sure it is DOCUMENTED! Good luck.

Answer 2

Get the police involved. It is called harrassment.

Method one is to try to find common ground.
Call her up, and act sweet. Try to talk it out.
If she starts yelling lower your voice, and listen. Hold the phone out at arm's length if you wish.
Maybe 10 minutes will go by. She'll get tired of ranting.
Let her know that you understand, but don't take the bait.
She might rant some more. So what. Eventually, she might get tired out.

Method 2 is the legalistic approach. Get a tape recorder, and start taping every call she makes. Let her know you are doing it, and will continue to do so from now on as evidence of her harassment. Make a log of all of her calls, date and time. Go to the police, and the phone company, with all of this.

Method 3 is really nasty, more permanent, but dangerous, since she might have a vendetta. It will take guts.

Invite her over to talk. Make sure your husband is not there. Have some brothers or other large people in a room upstairs, to help you out, if it goes bad.

Once a big fight starts, let her hit you a few times, don't fight back. Have the "rescuers" arrive, call the police, they'll escort her out, and maybe lock her up. You can tell the story of how you invited her over to try to come to a resolution, and she totally lost it, and now you are afraid.

Then you can get a protection order. if she violates that, she gets locked up.

Method 4 is long term. Make friends with people on your local police force, over time. Then ask them, what should you do?

Method 5 is hard core. Tell your husband "Solve it, or we are done. Be a man, this lady has been a problem for 7 years, so do something."

Good luck.

Answer 3

Safety first. How vengeful is she ?
are you afraid for your life ?
After 7 years she is about mentaly unstable, and has not move on.
Your parents and you should take legal action if you are loosing income with her calling while you work!

For her resentment to vanish is up to her Ex-husband to achieve. He may be the cause of 7 years of her not letting go!
find out if he still has feeling for her? Let him handle her.

Answer 4

I think she needs to be made responsible for her actions so can you put a restraining order on her for stalking via the phone if you don't she wont stop

Answer 5

Go to the police and report the harassment and get a restraining order.Get one that will prevent her from contacting your place of business.

Answer 6

start recording her phone calls .. if you have to put a recorder on your business phone then do it .. after you have a couple take them to the cops and file a retaining order on her . good luck ..

Answer 7

get a no contact restraining order

Answer 8

restraining order

Answer 9

I would get a restraining order, she is harrassing you.

Answer 10

get the phone co. involved. they can monitor her calls to you and punish her.