When is the right time to disipline your wife? Men only please..?

Question

I have been married for only 4 months now and my wife is beginning to let some of her responsibilities slide. Often my dinner is not prepared when I arrive home from business, sometimes I must wait 30 minutes, the state of the houses cleanliness is starting to drop, and my wife sometimes says embarrassing things in public.

I have not disiplined her as yet because we are still newly married. She knew full well of the duties required in wedlock, she knew from the time of the arrangement. It seems I may need to remind her of them shortly.

When is the right time to disipline your wife? Or is it still too early in our marridge?

My father taught me the first lesson is the hardest, and I should be forceful, that you need to set an example. What advice have you been given?

Answer 1

honey, it seems u re too late to discipline her - she already grabbed too much power. i mean come on, is it hard to clean the house and cook a decent meal while u re winning the bread? what a lazy lousy beatch. i say u tell her in the morning, before leaving if when u cone the house isn't sparkless and decent meal isn't waiting on the table and she ain't doing belly dancing in fancy underwear while u re eating perfect meal u will put her in the dangeon for the whole night. if alll those conditions aren't filled the next day u will put her there without meal for 2 days and so on. teach this lazy beatch a lesson

ps. well, if u re not living in a castle obviously u do not have a proper dangeon. well, maybe put her in the tiny cellar or closet

Answer 2

No I am not a man either but still... If you and your wife have a contract in place stating what is required of her and the consequences then you have failed her as a husband by not honouring that contract. That is if you have a master/(servant/slave) agreement. If you do then you will know what I am talking about.

Your phrasing about "time of the arrangement" makes me wonder if this is an arranged marriage and if you even have any emotional commitment to your wife or if you see her simply as a commodity.

I do agree with everyone else that you need to talk to your wife, not talk AT her but TO her. Perhaps there is a reason you are not aware of? A health problem or a problem around the house that distracts her from your expectations. As for having to wait half an hour for your dinner, have you thought of talking to her while she prepares the meal?

What sort of example are you wanting to set to your wife? One of love and respect and giving a **** about her or one of disrespect and uncaring? Do you think your mother is happy with your father (if they are still together)?

I personally think you need to think long and hard about what you want from your marriage. As for saying embarrassing things in public, this will only get worse if you keep making her nervous. Either that or you will completely destroy her self esteem. Or perhaps that is what you really want to do? To have someone completely dependent on you.

Perhaps your wife's standards have started to drop because she is unhappy. It is hard to be motivated when you are unappreciated and constantly criticized for what you haven't done rather than praised for what you have done.

One more point for you to consider. Do you want any children you might have to have the same selfish attitude that you seem to be displaying. Sometimes the ways of the parents are not the right ways. You both deserve love and respect from each other but you won't have that if you start treating her badly!

Answer 3

Your Father taught you by violence terrific so now you want to perpetuate that violence guess you didn't learn much from it...

Newly wed or not you have no right to discipline her. Maybe you are lacking in your respinsibilities in the bedroom a happy wife is the best partner every think of that???

Give her a hand do things together.... Otherwise pick your *** up and walk the hell out of the house and never look back since that is the best present you could give her......

arrangement or not looks like she got the short end of the stick with you, hopefully she will leave you shortly and you won't have to remind her.... Perhaps then you can get your dinner never instead of in 30 minutes like it would kill you to help out.... If you want a maid or a cook hire one you got married you didn't buy her to be your slave...

Answer 4

Make your own ******* dinner. My lover is in the kitchen right now. He's a real man. You don't disipline your wife and 'marital duties' only exist in your mind. It is not her responsiblity to cook, clean and bend over when ever you want. She is her own person. If your wife is such an embarassment to you, maybe you shouldn't have married her. She can say whatever she likes in public. Treat your wife like an equal or in your case a better. You are a pathetic excuse for a man. You're not even a man.

Answer 5

The only disclipine she needs his divorce your sorry butt,
You do not disclipine your wife she is not a child or a dog, When you get married it is suppossed to be 50/50 not you are the boss and she is the maid. Talk to her about what is going on but don't even think about disclipining her, or you will end up divorced before you have been married for 6 months. Grow up this is not the stone ages.
Sorry I'm not a guy.

Answer 6

I really hope this is a joke! Oh my, what is wrong with you. Do you have no respect for your wife? If I was her I would leave you and I hope she does. Disciplining your wife sounds like she is an animal. She is not there to wait on you hand and foot, in fact it should be a partnership. You need to be cooking dinner not her. Get out of the 18th century and back to reality.

Answer 7

You don't EVER discipline your wife - you may discipline your children perhaps. What you do is talk to your wife about the problems you are seeing, or the changes you are seeing in her since you marriage. Sometimes women can get a little lazy once they're married - you know, "Now that I've got him I don't have to try so hard". Talk to her about that and how you're feeling about it - but don't, under any circumstances, discipline her. She needs a husband, not a father.

Answer 8

Actually I am in Egypt already, but I never thought to "discipline" my wife. We both work, and we both share stuff to do in the house. She does more stuff in the house though, but that's because her working hours are way shorter than mine, and because she "appreciates" the effort I do, but not because of any "discipline"

I believe the term "discipline" better applies to the army or to the prison than to a marriage!

Man you do not have to "discipline" her, let me simplify it, but none of you has "authority" over the other to enforce "discipline." If you need something, just ask nicely for it, and be ready to do some favors to when she asks for, it is about love, sharing, understanding, and RESPECT, but definitely not about discipline. You dad might have his own perspective whenich might be suitable for the place and time he was born, but this is not the case these days. If you don't really feel love to her, and if marriage means "discipline" to you, I stronglt advise you to divorce her and get a maid to do your stuff, it's cheaper and less headache, right?! Because marriage is waaaay diferent than this.

Answer 9

you need to give your head a shake here bud,
she is not a child or a dog, you had better show some respect or you will lose her.
you do not discipline a partner. she is not a servant under your care... knock it off.
you dad was wrong, you treat them with love and dignity and stop trying to be such a bully.
you need some help, cause you sure as heck have this whole marriage thing wrong.
if you want to be a feudal lord you are living in the wrong century....

Answer 10

You can't be serious.
This is a joke, right?
I'm not a man, I'll tell ya from a woman's point of view, if you decide to discipline her in a physical way, you could find yourself in jail. Never abuse or disrespect a woman, there will be consequences.
Think about it.