an ex is spreading malicious words about me.....and I feel in a no win situation if I say nothing its like I am guilty if I say something it soundds defensive....he is out there taking the high moral ground over something i did not do. It really is affecting me mentally. the person who is the baddie if you like is scarce.....needless to say so cannot even persuade them to own up by phone or such. Is there anything i can do
2007-03-13 00:15:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
talk to ur ex
2007-03-13 00:18:21 · answer #1 · answered by abd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not taking the high moral ground if he is talking about personal matters with others, and in a malicious way.
I think it always hurts to be accused of things we didn't do.
I don't know how you heard about this but most likely not directly from your ex. There is a possibility some of the facts have been altered.
You could try a direct straight forward conversation with your ex.
If that doesn't seem possible or like it would accomplish anything you could try setting the facts straight with a few real sincere close friends and ask them for advice on what to do next.
2007-03-13 00:27:30 · answer #2 · answered by ly_rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious that your ex is inmature and not over you. He's spreading rumours because he doesn't want anyone else to have you so he's making it look like you're a bad person so nobody would talk to you. He may also be trying to make it look like he's the innocent one. I would just do this....Take the High Road. Don't contact him and don't let him know or anyone he knows that it's bothering you because that would be the icing on the cake. Let it go and let it just wash off like dirt after a nice hot shower. You're better then that. It doesn't make you look guilty for not responding it makes you look like you have class. It makes him look crazy.
2007-03-13 00:21:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex husband did the same thing to me after I left him - but I just ignored it all and thought if people want to believe the lies he's telling then more fool them.
In the end he's lost a lot of his friends and family because they've started to see him for who he really is.
Get on with your life and don't give a damn about what other people say - you know its all lies, don't waste your preciouse time and energy trying to convince others.
2007-03-13 00:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by luz2loz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forget the whole story concentrate on yourself start gym look ur work or pick up a hobby try to enhance urself in general make a new start and wipe her out of your life her and her lies! after one month i bet that u will have totally forgotten this story trust ignore her but for good! good luck whatever u do
2007-03-13 00:22:58 · answer #5 · answered by manosn1b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell everyone he has an acorn for a willy and thats why you dumped him and just tell everyone he is sad to be making up storys about you cos he's a sad prick!! then move on forget about him the sado!!
2007-03-13 00:52:55 · answer #6 · answered by suzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him if you can to sort things out and find out why he is doing this. If there is no alternative, just ignore what is being said. You know that you are innocent, so rise above it. Remember, "sticks and stones will break my bones, but names will never hurt me"!
2007-03-13 00:22:13 · answer #7 · answered by Beanbag 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just do what I did when in the same boat a few years ago - say nothing - ignore it - until someone asks you direct - and then just say to them - "sorry, if you believe that - well I feel sorry for you! I am not going to lower myself to their level".
2007-03-13 00:20:30 · answer #8 · answered by jamand 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
JAMAND is correct. DO nothing you know the truth and those who are your real friends will also know the truth. Keep your chin up and try to ignore it. It will stop! Keep Smiling XXX
2007-03-13 00:25:26 · answer #9 · answered by Chianti Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I'm with Jamand on this one, its the sort of thing I would advise as well. Chin up girl you can do it.
2007-03-13 00:25:27 · answer #10 · answered by Roxy. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just walk away if they have nothing else better to do then they were not really your true friend right
2007-03-13 00:34:09 · answer #11 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋