He's married, I'm married but I know he has the hots for me too. What do we do?? Should we act on our very strong feelings for each other.
2007-03-12 22:42:32 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dress up ypur resume. Bet if you keep going you'll need it.
2007-03-12 22:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by wizjp 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
No, a thousand times NO! You need to really think about this. It's wrong on a number of levels.
First, you're married, he's married. Do you really want to hurt your husband? His wife? You're thinking that you won't get caught. Well, guess what? Eventually, you will get caught and the pain you are going to cause your husband will be INTENSE. Do you really want to do that? Do you really care about him?
Second, you took marriage vows. Did you take them seriously when you made them? Have you thought about what would cause you to seriously look at another man? Have you tried working on your relationship with your husband?
There is nothing wrong with looking at the menu, so to speak. I notice attractive women all the time but I don't order from the menu.
Third, do you care about your career? Chances are, even if you go ahead and mess around with this guy, others are going to find out about it and it's going to get awkward. Odds are also that it won't work out long term and then it's going to get REALLY awkward around the work place.
Moreover, your boss is thinking with the little head here because if this doesn't work out (and odds are it won't long term), you could turn around sue the company for sexual harassment. He could lose his job over this.
Finally, if you two just can't keep your hands off of each other, you need to do some serious soul searching about your current relationships, what you want to do about them, what will happen when others find out about this and the repurcussions at the workplace. I'd recommend one of you find a job somewhere else.
Good luck. You're going to need it.
2007-03-13 06:02:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. I was the boss tho. If the feelings are there and the marriages are through, I say hell yea go for it.
But be sure to end the marriage before or you'll regret it.
By the way we've been married for 10 years now. you only go round once. Be happy in this life.
2007-03-13 05:54:24 · answer #3 · answered by cpfirmin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you two are having is lust / desire for the physical attraction. Since both of you are married its better to avoid any relationship amongst you because you will be cheating your spouses and unnessary divorce and ill feeling would trival latter. However if both of you cannot restrict yourself a discrete affair may be planned but you should be prepared for the consequences.
2007-03-13 05:54:23 · answer #4 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't start anything with your boss. You put your job in jeopardy and a possible change in the working environment. You may harm your marriage or even his. Ignore this feeling and fall out of love with him. You have a husband that loves you at home.
2007-03-13 05:44:59 · answer #5 · answered by cashew 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way. Business/work relationships are always disasterous. If he is using his position to entice you then hes guilty of sexual harassment. These usually end up in the workplace grapevine and then trouble among co-workers start and rumors fly about raises and promotions and then you begin to wonder if any raises or promotions come from your hard work or outside extra activities. Plus if you want out then it ruins your career and your family, especially if he doesnt. Never worth it so forget it and save your career and family.
2007-03-13 05:50:17 · answer #6 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feelings for each other? Are you sure they are feelings and not just lust? You're both married, whatever happened to the wedding vows? Don't either one of you care about your partners? Ask yourself, if your partner committed adultery, how would you feel? And if you are doing this to get even because your partner has committed adultery - 2 wrongs do not make a right! Thou shall not commit adultery!!! Get your Bible out and read it and if you don't own one, go out and buy one!!! Jesus loves you and is waiting for you to accept him into your life. God Bless You!!
2007-03-13 05:48:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage should be taken seriously. If you are committed to your marriage you won't let yourself fall in love with someone else. You are both married and should stay away from one another unless you decide your life with your husband is a dead end situation and you two separate. ONLY than should you date someone else and NEVER someone married!!!!
2007-03-13 05:46:57 · answer #8 · answered by Nana 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what you call love is filthy dust
sweet words to try and explain lust
We have hots for each other Oh how sweet
while everybody else sees nothing but two cheats
When he kicks you to the curb don't feel robbed
just was your turn to lose your man and your job
2007-03-13 06:35:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wonderful, what happens when it's falling apart or your respective families are in a major self destruct mode? You know damn well he's thinking with his d
2007-03-13 05:48:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a very good idea. What happens when you get over your hots? Which you will. You still have to work together or you'll have to leave. He's not going to. Think it through.
2007-03-13 05:45:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋