Hey Peeps what should i do? my ex boyfriend has been in touch once more. we dated off and on a few years ago and never really had any closure. he text me to say that he is now ready for what I want. i am keen to find out what exactly he wants from me but i already have a bf. i am scared incase my ex says that he wants me as i still have feelings for him as well as my by and i just know that someone is going to get hurt, i've been trying to put it to the back of my mind and ignore it but it is niggling away at me how do i go about this? i dont want to go behind my bf's back cos then it will look like i am up to something. my ex and i didnt part on bad terms we just fell away. my bf is going to ibiza with his mate in june and i am also worried incase he cheats on me again. so do i sort myself out and find out what my ex means or do i just carry on as normal and see what happens? - Thank you
2007-03-12 22:09:50 · 13 answers · asked by nc 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are comfortable with your bf, then forget about the ex. You can't have both worlds.
2007-03-12 22:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your current BF allready cheated on you? Take it from experience.......one strike and you're out. The respect is gone. No more chances.
As far as your ex.......I know how that can screw with your mind, heart and soul. The best thing for you to do is disconnect from both.....meaning, take a weekend out with your best friend. Get yourself a massage, time alone......think about what YOU want. No matter how hard it is, don't think of the tug-of-war you feel you are in the middle of.
What might help too, is to write in a journal what you think would happen either way.......with each of the examples you gave in your questions. Sleep on it.....see how it looks in the morning or after the spa weekend with a girlfriend.
Either way, don't manipulate just so you don't end up alone. Better off starting fresh - with a new man.
2007-03-12 22:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by JosieJo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sweetie you have answered your own question, your boyfriend has cheated!!!!!!!!! as you say you and your ex parted on good terms and men scare easily when faced with commitment, obviously he has missed you and realises that you are the one as he is ready to offer you his all. Really look at what you have with your boyfriend, yes you have feelings for him but this guy is not good for you if you are worried about him cheating.AGAIN! its the "again" that worries me. if your feelings for your ex are knawing away at you this much then you owe it to both of you to give it another go, he has grown up clearly in the time you have been apart. Dont do it behind your fellas back, end it with him first and ask your ex for space to get over the break-up and you will contact him when you are ready, if he is serious he will respect that and you will have found a decent guy, dont stay with the boyfriend regardless of your decision you will end up used. good luck i hope it all works out for you and your ex, after all it sounds like you both want the same things now. emma
2007-03-12 23:27:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you meet your ex at a public place and take one of your friends with you, therefore it does not look like anything sus, and see what he has got to say. Depends if you are willing to risk losing your current bf for a risk that it will work out this time around with your ex. What if you ended up with none? If i was you i would want to know and lets face it if your current bf has cheated before its not a good sign for trust in your relationship.
Glad im not in your dilemma but good luck and go with you heart!
2007-03-12 22:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so the bf your with now has cheated.....thats not really a good sign!
and you've not said how you really feel about your current b/f! if its serious and you love him, you wouldn't b thinking of your ex at all, no matter what he's said to you,
i'd definately find out what ur ex means, but its not really fair to just drop your fella because you ex says hes ready for what you want.
you've gotta think about what you really want!!
2007-03-13 01:10:27 · answer #5 · answered by Bird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,it may be hard to deside,but my advice is,it's upto you to chose.be open in your mind because maybe ur looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with.Between the two,your first bf or second,whom do you see to be open.you haven't told the kind of mate your bf is going to ibiza with;If it's agf,forget about it and try sort things out with ur first bf.If it doesen't work ,better look for onother way.Incase your first bf means it,then go on.But first take time to examine yourself; hope this will help you.Thankyou.
2007-03-12 22:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by BAHATI J jaybe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have explained yourself very clearly. You are well aware of the consequences and are cautious too. Congrats! It is better that you sort yourself out and find out what your ex means. At the same time, use prudence, remember boundaries are very important in friendship. Use caution, wisdom and commonsense.
2007-03-12 22:19:27 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Tere - educator & professor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh what ever rocks your boat dear!!
i'd say see what both has to offer you...
and let your heart lead the way...
Be honest to both and see what happens there that is if you want to really know what your ex is up too..
Love is tricky in all sense but follow your heart......
2007-03-12 22:19:15 · answer #8 · answered by Chrissy D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for how long have you been with your bf?????
do you think is worth to leave an steady relationship for a " it could work" type of relationship??? ... but if you still love you ex and you feel inside of you that regardless the hard times he might put you thru you still miss him hey! think twice cuz no one else can feel for you!!! and "we" frequently mistake companionship for love......... and then you might regret later on ..what if i gave him the chance?!!!!!!!
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