I feel bad. sometimes she gets on my nerves so much. so I know I'm not being very nice to her. but she never lets me leave. friday night we were fighting so bad, I told her I was going to go stay at my moms, she freaked like I was divorcing her or something. she cried and begged me not to leave, told me she would do anything to keep me here. she made me feel so bad and guilty I ended up staying. luckily we made up but sometimes I just feel like I can't breathe. and need some space, is this normal?
2007-03-12 21:53:28 · 16 answers · asked by Lothario 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-03-12 22:00:53 · answer #1 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do any of you women get so sick of your husband?
I feel bad. sometimes he gets on my nerves so much. so I know I'm not being very nice to him. but he never lets me leave. friday night we were fighting so bad, I told him I was going to go stay at my moms, he freaked like I was divorcing him or something. he cried and begged me not to leave, told me he would do anything to keep me here. he made me feel so bad and guilty I ended up staying. luckily we made up but sometimes I just feel like I can't breathe. and need some space, is this normal?
2007-03-13 05:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by defragmentedbrain 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This whole thing is covered by boundary issues. The best advice I ever got, may also be the simplest. "Your feelings ARE your boundaries" John Bradshaw . He does relationship work/books. He has a great beginning book. Bradshaw on the Family. You are being manipulated. She may not realize it. But you also have undefined boundary's that allow this. People should be able to say I need what I need for ME. And I want you to have what you need for YOU. How do you know when you are letting someone step on a healthy boundary? When it FEELS bad. Hurts, makes you angry, edgy. You don't always have to know why (at that moment) you just need to know it doesn't feel right and learn to honor that. A smothered relationship cannot survive. If you can't get counseling try John Bradshaws book. Good luck to you. P.S. This is a good thing to practice in all your relationships.
2007-03-13 05:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal
let me tell you this if you spin the whole planet you wont find a non-naging women they all nag at diffirent level and they like to talk alot and they are always right and you are always wrong but hai that what makes man the upper hand
women are compsed of emotion and they use 70% of ther harts and 30% of thier brain V.V for man
its ok to hate your wife for a while as this is the only way you will unleash your anger
at least you are dencent enough that you are not beating her
so hating your wife every now and then is ok as i assure you its a temporary feeling and whenever you feel that just remember good times you had with her and keep reminding your self of her positives rather than negatives and this hate will fade away in max 30 minutes
hope this helps
2007-03-13 05:00:13 · answer #4 · answered by Syrian4life 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why would you want to go ans stay with your mom and leave your wife? If you go to stay with mom you better go with her. Maybe your approach was not right. All you do is tell her in advance that you were thinking that the two of visit mom and if she says no then you will have excuse to go to mommy. The suspicion could be from your wife that you are going to talk about your marriage to your mom. Once you get married you leave home and be attached to your wife brother, do not allow mommy to manipulate you because you will end up running your home through mommy's eye.
2007-03-13 05:01:47 · answer #5 · answered by Dr Yahoo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You two are in a marriage so it's your obligation to communicate with her and not run off to your mom's when the going gets tough. Running off to mom's is actually a slap in the face to your wife.
When you married her, you agreed to make her number one and mom doesn't interfere with that or enter into the equation. Too many men and women cleave to their parents, when they should let them go when they say, "I Do."
2007-03-13 05:27:38 · answer #6 · answered by golden_diva7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you are being selfish and you only care about enjoying yourself. She is a human being and she deserves a little respect. Maybe you need to let her know why you are not taking her on your outings with the guys and perhaps she can better understand you.
2007-03-13 05:23:01 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man or woman, however it applies, I'd say there's no difference. When you feel so strangled up, can't breath, locked up in a cage ... whatever..... REMEMBER YOUR MARRIAGE VOWS!!!! Didn't you ever think that maybe that's how your wife also feels? Yet, she's sticking up with you? You're not the only one who got married you know......
2007-03-13 05:17:54 · answer #8 · answered by TIGERLILY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its good to get away sometimes and have a break. Just keep it to a short time and then she will not get annoyed.
2007-03-13 22:12:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try to be the bigger person and just let things go. if u want a relationship to last u have to just relax and let it go. i mean it cant be worth fighting, feeling stressed, asking me, etc...love you wife, cuddle with her, take care of her, protect her, she should be your everything. fight less - love more.
2007-03-13 05:18:48 · answer #10 · answered by Alpha7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ermmm.... like I was sayiong, I saw an identical question, only it said, :Do any of you women get so sick of your husband? Exact same information too. Anyway, no, it isn't normal.
2007-03-13 05:01:16 · answer #11 · answered by Cara 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋