I feel bad. sometimes he gets on my nerves so much. so I know I'm not being very nice to him. but he never lets me leave. friday night we were fighting so bad, I told him I was going to go stay at my moms, he freaked like I was divorcing him or something. he cried and begged me not to leave, told me he would do anything to keep me here. he made me feel so bad and guilty I ended up staying. luckily we made up but sometimes I just feel like I can't breathe. and need some space, is this normal?
2007-03-12 21:49:24 · 11 answers · asked by princess1226 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-03-12 22:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by tupac4evaa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can certainly relate to this one! I think you are due for a break, take a weekend and spend it with your friends or go on a girls trip for the weekend! I have been married for almost 18 years to the same man. We have had our share of nasty fights. In fact, I did spend one night at my mom's house as well. It totally threw him for a loop, when I returned home the next day, he gave me a card and we sat and talked. He finally let me state my side of the relationship and through communication, I was able to explain how his actions were affecting me and our marriage. I can tell you that these types of situations can be very normal. Unfortunately, some times we feel cramped in and it gets hard to breathe, but that is due mainly to the lack of good communication. If you both talk as loving adults and you let him know exactly how you feel, then you will know how far he is willing to go to meet you in the middle. If he reacted that way to you telling him you were going to your mom's for the night, then I am sure he would be willing to listen. If you don't let him know how you feel and what your expectations are (as well as listening to what his are), it will build up inside you until you burst! Then your marriage can be in serious trouble. I wish you all the best! Good luck.
2007-03-12 22:25:27 · answer #2 · answered by Red Shoes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Needing some space is normal. You're probably not getting enough alone time. Sometimes we all just need to say to our loved ones, "Leave me alone for a few hours. We can hang out tonight."
He never lets you leave??? Like go out or go live at your moms? You shouldn't have to go live with your mom, but you should definitely be able to go out and do what you like from time to time. If he never lets you leave the house, he's abusive and there's more problems than just the need for alone time.
Remember, it's perfectly normal to sometimes get annoyed with your loved ones. Did you have siblings growing up? If you did, you'd know you don't always have to like the people you love. It works the same way with your husband. Hopefully you like him more than not. Ask for your alone time when you need it!
2007-03-12 21:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal. Both partners need their own space in a relationship, and you'll only build up more resentment towards him, if you keep putting up with this instead of putting your foot down.
Talk to him, calm, but firmly, that you and him are not alone on this world, and that you also want to go out with your friends, and that you will only build up resentment towards him, if he doesn't let you go. And that a happy wife is a better wife, so in the end, he'll also benefit from giving you some freedom.
2007-03-12 22:28:45 · answer #4 · answered by Chevrolet*Blazer*Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a break. Maybe take a vacation or stay at a friends house. Let him know you are not leaving him but that you need a break from life and you just want to be lazy for a day or so. Also go see a family therapist to work on your marrage
2007-03-12 21:53:26 · answer #5 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you need a break. You should sit down with him and say that you want to go out for coffee with a girlfriend. It's normal to want time alone every once in a while. He does (or at least should) also. I used to be able to go by myself to the movies (the late showing) on Friday evenings just to unwind. My wife was fine with that. She used to be able to go out and have pie and coffee with her friends once a week as well.
2007-03-12 23:44:48 · answer #6 · answered by Gary M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's a needy person and really codependent, this could make you feel like you want to be on your own some times. Only, you need to tell him about these feelings so he can work on getting help or trying to straighten himself out from these actions.
2007-03-12 21:56:33 · answer #7 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you know some guy just copied your question word for word and posted it? Only he said "Do any of you men get sick of your wives." SORRY...but the answer that I should have given to you...I gave to him. I hope you go read it. The advice was heartfelt and meant to go to the person who was honestly asking.
2007-03-12 22:21:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds normal to me. but if he keeps suffocating you that way, he doesn't realize it, but it will eventually push you away from him. everyone needs alone time once in a awhile. just to beable to think clearly.
2007-03-12 21:54:27 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I saw an identical question somewhere, only it was:Do any of you men get so sick of your wife? The information was identical to the one you provided but no, it isn't normal.
2007-03-12 21:59:58 · answer #10 · answered by Cara 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋