Thank you to everyone who provide me with some answers to my question I raised earlier about when you know someone is an alcoholic. I am new to this program, so I thought I could rate everyone's answers. Oh well. My husband appears to meet some of the characteristics of alcohol dependency, but doesn't need to have one in the morning, etc. He doesn't think about beer until he gets home. Then it is non stop beer drinking (8% alc by volume) until bed time? We are struggling financially, he gets aggrevated easily and comes from a family who have required interventions to get them into A.A.? Can I attend an al-anon meeting to help me and my 2 kids get through this?
2007-03-12 21:42:13 · 9 answers · asked by Red Shoes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Darlin'...I have been there...went to Al-anon a few times, but didn't get much from it...but you can try it yourself and see if it works for you...
Bottom line...no matter how you try to force an alcoholic into treatment, they won't accept it unless they are ready...in the meantime..it's hard on the loved ones around them...there is an Al-anon for kids too....look into it...if you wish to use my email , then feel free..I can share more with you that way...just click on the email tab next to my avatar...Good luck
2007-03-12 23:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by EvelynMine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he may not have a physical dependancy, but it sounds like he's working his way towards one. This is better than worse. It means he won't go through withdrawl and it means he's not really an alcoholic and just needs to stop drinking, but for some psychological reason he won't. Lots of people who attend AA were never really alchoholics, but habitual or problem drinkers. You can begin to attend al-anon even if he doesn't join AA. You may even find some support and help with how to get through to your husband. Good luck.
2007-03-12 21:51:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
26 beers ate up over 28 days -- meaning no longer all promptly, multi function sitting -- would not be an argument with me. He sounds quite under pressure. you may desire to attempt being a touch greater know-how and greater elementary and naggy and spot if that would not replace his music. EDIT: so he's had to quit smoking pot, quit enjoying psand playing all mutually for you for despite reason and now you "concern" it rather is ingesting that often is the subsequent ingredient. Has it ever occured to you which you *could* be in basic terms a tad ... oh i do no longer recognize ... over the acceptable along with your administration subject concerns? EDIT: you may no longer administration him. If he's no longer opt for you opt for in a existence better half and father, break up. he's telling you together with his strikes (previous and contemporary) he's no longer prepared to alter. and that i nonetheless do no longer evaluate the quantity he's ingesting to be of subject.
2016-10-02 01:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all alcoholics "need" a drink in the mornings. Thee are binge drinkers, who can be dry for a week or so, then gulp 'em down one night. Please, DO GO to ala-non meetings, you and your children will truly be helped thru this program. They have ala-teens too. Just please check with your local area aa, etc. to find out the times, dates, and places for these meetings. You will find that you are not the only one in "this boat". And your children will find this out as well. As a teen, I went to ala-non meetings with mom. Please, don't go to just one meeting, go as often as you can. At least once a week, or whatever your schedule allows for. I wish you the best. Take care.
2007-03-12 21:50:36 · answer #4 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't drink until he gets home, maybe the problem is at home. You are probably stressing him out big time. If I was married to yuo I would be a drop dead drunk too. Grow up and quit being so damned selfish.
2007-03-12 21:50:46 · answer #5 · answered by Lothario 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you should talk to him about it, have a little intervention with just you and your kids (if it is bothering them as well). Let him know that you are worried about your finances and about the effects it is having on you and your kids. Let him know you are concerned for his health as well. He won't go to AA if he doesn't want to.
2007-03-12 21:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't do you any good to go without him, it will only make him angry with you. You may let him know what it would cost him not to be willing to attend (you and kids), if things get too bad from his actions. This may wake him up before its too late.
2007-03-12 21:52:02 · answer #7 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont convince him that he has a problem and give him a chance to change his habit, willingfully. If he thinks he has a problem he will assume that will be something that is expected of him, and then it will be impossible for him to come to the realization that he has the ability to change his mind, and action.
2007-03-12 21:53:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
please go to alanon and talk to some people in the same situation as you are. it might be a good idea to go when he is at work as he may get a bit dark on you if he finds out. either that or be straight with him and tell him you are going and see his reaction.
2007-03-12 21:47:58 · answer #9 · answered by defragmentedbrain 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋