I realised that my frnd is not worth being my frnd thats bcoz she uses me, she wants my company only when she is blue, she needs a shoulder to cry on and an ear to heah her out and when I need her she is always BUSY! I knw this frndship is coming to an end but b4 that I want to make her realise that she is on mistake. She has used me I want her to feel guilty and I want her to apologise. What should I do to make her feel ignored and avoided by me?
If I talk to her directly she would take me wrong and she will have hard feelings for me.
I dont want to come across as rude I want her to realise that she is losing a good frnd like me who was always there for her but now no more thats bcoz of her attitude towards me. Tell me what should I do? plz help. Give me ideas and if anybody have ideas which can bring me and my frnd togeter again it would be appreciated but I want to make her realise her that she was rude with me. Thanks
2007-03-12 21:42:10 · 9 answers · asked by lets_smile07 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Just let it go. Dont speak to her on the phone and if she turn up either dont answer door or pretend you going out. she will need you before you need her. I had "friend" like this, every day she would ring me with the same problem (her man & step kids and his ex-wife). This went on for TEN YEARS. We had a falling out because I needed her and she was not there for me. She had cheek to say she had had enuf of my abuse. Cant forgive that. That was 18months ago. She now ringing, texting me and turned up at my house yesterday. Like I said, she'll need you before you need her, do you really need the hassle, life is complicated enuf without someone else's probs all the time. Good Luck.
2007-03-12 23:28:23 · answer #1 · answered by Sugarlump 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I think it is important that you DO tell her what the problem is because she needs to learn a lesson so that she doesn't keep doing the same thing over and over. In telling her, I think you are again showing that you are a true friend. However, you are getting nothing from this relationship so it is in your own interests to let it go, as you already know.
How to do it? Well, since you say she picks you up wrong if you try to talk to her, I would write her a letter - not an email or a text, but a good old-fashioned letter that she can either ceremoniously throw in the bin or, more likely, she will store somewhere and maybe take it out again sometime and reflect on.
Who knows, it just might help her see the error of her ways before it is too late. You do sound as though you have invested a lot of time and feelings in this friendship and I do hope it works out for you. If not, you have left it with dignity.
2007-03-13 00:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't like this idea but just get over it and move on. Guilt is a negative emotion and trying to foster it in someone is foolish.
Guilt is always harmful and never does anyone any good for any reason. If you can't just be A friend to her without seeing your self as a victim just tell her that her actions stir up deep seated issues for you that make you feel victimized. Don't try to blame a friend who is already bogged down with problems of her own, for your inability to deal with these problems that you are having.
Love and blessings Don
2007-03-13 01:27:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a true friend is to help and never complains the friendship. There are many levels of friendships and many ways to be friends. We have the every right to standardized the friendliness towards our many and varied levels of friends. I m a friend of yours but it is on the contray of just " hi's " and " bye's ". Grade your friends to your priorities. U still have a live of yours to live on. Don't be sad over a relationships because there are still many people out there that will be your friend, my friend.
2007-03-13 00:19:13 · answer #4 · answered by Laurent 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't make her feel bad or try to get revenge because you would be stooping to her level. Just let the friendship go, when she sees that you didn't fight to keep the friendship alive she'll realise that something is wrong - don't lower yourself for something as petty as vengeance.
2007-03-12 22:03:39 · answer #5 · answered by kissaled 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all get used from time to time,you cant change the past so just put it behind u and move on, your friend is being selfish,i wouldnt class her as a true friend
2007-03-13 11:21:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a doormat stop her bull-**** n tell her to keep it to herself. Remember door mats always stay on the floor... Rise up n stop being one.
2007-03-12 21:51:25 · answer #7 · answered by Preet_Answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same thing has happened to me... When she wants to talk to me she will... but When she is with her BOY FRIEND I DON'T EXIST... I feel used to because I leave my boy Friend to listen to her problems once everything is OK between her and her b.f she doesn't know me wata ******
2007-03-13 00:17:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HER SHE HURT YOUR FEELINGS BY NOT BEING THERE WHEN U NEED HER & LEAVE IT. C WAT SHE DOES.
SOM PPL KEEP DOING THE SAME THING OVER & OVER. I HAD FRIENDS THAT KEPT USING ME & I JUST CUT THEM OFF. HURTS TOO MUCH & U SHOULDNT LET ANY1 USE U LIKE THAT
2007-03-12 21:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by tupac4evaa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋