my boyfriend and i have been going together for over 1 year.and for the first 10 months everything was great and its was pefect. next thing i know i felt like he was not giving me all of his attention.( the reason why.... he was at football practice from 2-5pm.) so i guess i got jealous because i was not the center of his world. so i got attitudes with him made up stuff to get him mad and to get his attention. almost 1 week before our 1 year anniversary he brakes up with me because i was doing him wrong. we got back together 1 week later. now it has been a month since then and i have been doing the same thing agian and i just wont his attention and he is not understanding that. i cant just tell him thats what i wont. but all i wont is his attention. how do i get him to understand that?
2007-03-12 21:28:32 · 8 answers · asked by **@ngel** 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
sorry about the grammer and spelling. it comes from all of the texting i been doing.
2007-03-12 21:29:28 · update #1
i have not tried telling him this
2007-03-12 21:38:38 · update #2
mgerben---what are you talking about im only 16. im not insecure i just wont more attention....thats just somthing brief that i am saying.....wtf are you talking about
2007-03-12 23:04:55 · update #3
Sounds like to me you are too young to focus on getting "someones" attention. You need to focus on finding things to do during the times that he is occupied. Even as a married women- I cannot look for my husband to occupy my time. You need to do your own thing also. Good Luck
2007-03-12 21:38:24 · answer #1 · answered by Mommy of Two 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't spend a few hours without him, you have a problem. It is a bit of of insecurity but I'd say it's more like selfish and controlling (they work hand in hand though).
Perhaps, you should be asking your boyfriend for more quality attention, if that's what your seeking. If you want him with you every minute and your taking him away from things he enjoy's doing, your relationship will not last much longer. There has to be some kind of balance and if you can't give him that and make up stories to boot, your relationship is done.
I believe that you have too much time on your hands and don't have any interest outside the relationship. Your best to get involved in something besides spending all your time with him and create a balance you both can live with. If you don't have much interest, perhaps you should be a supportive girlfriend and watch the practices and attend the games. It passes the time, your watching him and you may begin to love the game as much as he does.
Stop the games and stop being clingy and needy. If you continue the path your going, you'll be breaking up for good next time.
2007-03-13 07:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by trojan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You two will probably break up again.
It is inevitable, because no boy or man can live like that.
You can't even be left alone for three hours??
Your boyfriend will walk out again, I promise.
The thing is: You have a problem. You are insecure. About yourself, and about his love for you.
You want him to compensate for your insecurity.
That is wrong in two ways:
1) It's never enough. So he gives up football training for you. Don't think he'll be happy!
Next time, you'll find something else to be insecure about. And he has to change again to address your feelings.
Watching commercials with women in them? Talking to an old schoolfriend? Having a laugh with a female collegue?
All FORBIDDEN the moment you learn about it.
2) He can't solve it. No matter what he does. It's your problem, it's inside you. By saying 'he's not giving me the attention I want', you are making it his problem. But he can't make you secure.
He's not making you feel insecure by going to football practice. You are making yourself insecure.
Only you can help yourself.
If you keep this up, it will cost you this relationship, and possibly several others before you learn that only you can deal with this.
2007-03-12 22:51:23 · answer #3 · answered by mgerben 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy the time you have together and do your own thing when he is at football practice. Remember he has a life too--he cant spend it giving you his undivided attention 24/7. Give him some breathing room!
2007-03-12 21:42:19 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is very simple, confront him about what you feel. because if you wont tell it to him straightface, he will NEVER understand. on the other hand, your the one who should understand him, because it is not always that your the center of his world. HE HAS HIS OWN LIFE!
2007-03-12 23:35:38 · answer #5 · answered by kim g 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the second answer
2007-03-12 22:34:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1- make him feel that u r hot and sexy then others
2-make him feel jeoulsy
atlast he will be attracted to you
2007-03-13 01:27:58 · answer #7 · answered by sexy babes 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
have you tryed telling him this
2007-03-12 21:36:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋