Fear or laziness?

Question

I have been lying to my wife of 2 years. No, I am not having an affair. I have been telling her that I am looking for a better job, but the truth is I am not. I have a full time minimum wage job which does not pay enough. My wife is not employed but is in training for a job that she hopes to land soon.
I love her (at least I say that I do), why is it so easy for me to lie to her?
I want a better life for us, but I am not doing what it takes to achieve that life. I feel that I am trying to sabotage my marriage.
I have graduated high school and I have some college credits but not a degree. I have enough education to get a good job.
Am I afraid of married life or just lazy?

Answer 1

Now this bets all! How would anyone know the answer to this except you? Sit down and put things in perspective on your behalf and be truthful about what your marriage means to you, then the answer will be there. Eventually, your wife will let you know that you've been lying, (they do know), and will let you know how she feels about the situation, then it may be a little late to make mends.

Answer 2

You could have the fear of stepping out and trying a new challenge! Its easy to stay in routine because its safe and convenient for all. Another job might have bad shifts and characters but better pay but you might be afraid you wont adapt so you dont try. You will only know whats out there if you try and go out and do it. Hit the papers and see whats out there, what would it hurt? You can even do that together. Just dont let life pass you by because of the fear of unknown. You change one thing in life and everything will change.

Answer 3

You should be honest with your wife and tell her the truth. Never lie to her. You got to let her know what you are going through and perhaps she may share your thoughts too.