WE HAVE three children at home. He works all the time. Our children ages are 17 16 6. I'm with them all the time. He does not come home at night. But he pays all the bills. We own our own business and I work parttime in it.
2007-03-12 21:09:37 · 19 answers · asked by wife&mother 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
BEfore you make any rash decisions or assume to much, perhaps better to talk to him? Sorry I don't mean to sound harsh, it just that you said you believe your husband is cheating n you , not that you know he is. SO before you get to set on leaving try to communicate with him first. He might just be one of these people who is trying to make things work for you both so you can retire comfortably. DOesnt sound like he has much time to screw around. But I may be wrong.
2007-03-12 21:16:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly... You don't give a very defined reason other then he doesn't come home at night... does that mean not at all? or just extreamly late? Does he habbit bars? Maybe he's picked up on drinking after work ( might not be a good thing either ) I'm not saying you don't have a good reason... just that you didn't define it here. Before you make the big leap or divorce.. make SURE he really is... if he is... confront him first... you deserve to know why and with who...
2007-03-12 21:19:46 · answer #2 · answered by Justin L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to stay in the marriage just because he pays all the bills? Does having the money alone make you happy? Aren't you getting tired of sleeping alone? Let alone sharing YOUR husband? I don't know about you, but if I am married, I am married. If I have to share mu husband with someone else, than I am NOT married any longer.After he pays child support, and everything else because I have the children, he's gonna wish he did stay married.
2007-03-12 21:19:28 · answer #3 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you aren't happy then you need to tell him. Tell him what is bothering you, and see if he will do anything to make it better. Try to patch things up, but if you can't, then tell him what you really want. I really hope that things work out for you the way you want them to. I know that im a younger mother, but i go through the same thing everyday with my man. But i am so in love with him. We know that it is impossible for us to spend the time that we want together, so we just make the most of the time we do have. We leave work at work and home at home. In your case that could be difficult. I am always home with my daughter, i cook, clean, and all that jazz. He works doubles almost everyday, and he is lucky to get 2 days off in a week. I don't know how we do it, i just remember why i fell in love with him in the first place, and look forward to whatever time i get to be with him. Even if we are just hanging out with our daughter watching tv. Well i hope this helps. Again, try to make it work, but you do whatever makes you happy. also, you cannot just jump to conclusions that he is cheating on you. Tell him how you feel, although that is a very touchy subject. Just tell him that you don't feel loved, and you feel like you aren't getting the love and attention that you deserve, give him an ultimatum if you have to. well i hope everything works out for you, good luck! Jes
2007-03-12 21:18:33 · answer #4 · answered by sngbrd05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not assumed. Assumption is the mother of all foul-ups. Have a one-on-one chat with him. Let him know that you appreciate the hard work he has put in but he needs to balance his work and family becos the family needs him too. See what his response is. If what you assumed is correct, do not overreact. Give youself some personal space and reflect on what when wrong. Revisit the discussion. If all else failed, move on with your life.
2007-03-12 21:18:35 · answer #5 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of telling us, tell him your thoughts from his actions. Be prepared to show proof if you want to be taken seriously, because he's going to lie and shift your gestures off like you have a lot of nerve for suspecting him. Let him know how his actions are making you feel and what you really want to bring things back together. If he's willing to work with you then you have an answer worth trying to resolve things. If not, then hire a detective and go for what you know if that's what it'll take for you and your kids to have a happier life.
2007-03-12 21:19:00 · answer #6 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you didn't have your kids alone...and you need his help...that you want to save the marriage.
Tell him you need him at home at night if he wants to be a part of the famly otherwise you will be forced to leave.
You are better than this. Even if he is normally a perfect husband....if he is not being a part of it ::: it really doesn't matter how great he is.
Tell him you need him at home at night or it's over!!!
2007-03-12 21:22:17 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa Kay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being that you do have children, I would try and work things out to save the marraige, but if he is not willing then I would get a divorce.
2007-03-12 21:15:40 · answer #8 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the romance and love is gone, it's not worth your time.
Your kids will just have to learn to deal, like I've done.
I'm very sorry about this.
Make sure to get full proof evidence before you do anything rash. though.
2007-03-12 21:14:14 · answer #9 · answered by Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use good lawyer which get seperate legally and with equal proportion of wealth, property and business you own.
2007-03-12 21:20:09 · answer #10 · answered by funxxxnxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋