hi guys your help if u could please,
right i met my ex-girlfriend while she was living over here (england) and we got on so well problem was she had to go bk to america to finish her college or what ever it is u call it.
anyway we chatted for a while on fone and i did go and see her once bk in november problem is we deside to just be friend cos of how far apart we now live. cut a long story short at the time i didnt have the money to move over to be closer to her. now i have the problem is we not spoken to her in 6 months cos i lost her number by mistake. we have wrote to each other a couple of times but thats about it. thing is i miss her soso much and i want her bk. i want to fly over there and see her but as a surprise. thing is im not sure if she moved on and found someone else.. i wouldnt blame her if she has. is it worth the risk cos life to short??? if she has moved on maybe being there for her as friends would be ok??
anyone else been tho anything like this??
2007-03-12 21:03:40 · 10 answers · asked by alan h 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
noooo hun dont risk it!!!! Its a really nice gesture on your behalf to plan such a fantastic surprise - but I feel you'd be the oneon the receiving end of an even bigger surprise - for example - meeting her new boyfriend!
Also - even though you have lost her number - Im sure she could have called you? I dont care what reasons you have for loosing contact or not having much contact - if two people mean enough to each other then they will make a huge effort to keep in touch.
I think you'd be far better off trying to forget about her - and maybe concentrating on finding someone nearer to home - you sound like a lovely guy - and if she didnt appreciate that - then its her loss!
xx
2007-03-13 01:24:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you from experience that you should not go and surprise her! Definately not! She will not thank you for it!
She may however love for you to go over. Do the following:
- Write her another letter and ask her to send you her number and explain you are missing her - yadayadayada - and say you want to visit.
- If you hear back its a goer - if not you'll have to move on.
I hope it goes well - it can be hard I know.
2007-03-13 04:10:10 · answer #2 · answered by Lord Onion 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I think you should leave everything in a past, I had this kind of relationship for 4 years, and it does not work. You remember how it was, but it would never be again! So be strong, I wish you all the best but don’t do it…
2007-03-13 04:14:58 · answer #3 · answered by Kate21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her a letter it could turn into a very awkward situation if she has found someone else but then again she could feel the same as you.
2007-03-13 04:28:41 · answer #4 · answered by Kimberly S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 6 months is along time.
Ans if you write letters you should ask if shes moved on. i she has i wouldnt go. also if you just go & you didnt no she had moved on your gonna get your heart broke!!!
so thats my advice mate
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2007-03-13 04:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop dreaming and be honest with yourself. This relationship is over. You lost her number, but she did not loose yours! Why isn't she phoning you?
2007-03-13 04:24:11 · answer #6 · answered by MaggieSA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why didn't you ask for her number when you wrote her and why hasn't she called yea maybe she moved on but that doesn't means you shouldn't care for her no support her on her decisions
2007-03-13 04:44:17 · answer #7 · answered by bre 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you moved?
2007-03-13 04:12:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go and surprise her. no point wondering forever.
2007-03-13 07:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her first....
2007-03-13 04:37:19 · answer #10 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋