My husbands not finding me attractive?
Im 23 years old my husband is 35 always plays computer games and is only horny for bjs,
im not ugly! im a slim build blonde hair ....
we just found out he has chrones disease he says thats why but we have been together for 4 years and never had good sex we have a 6 month old ,
i worked hard to get the weight off and never gained it when i was pregnant no stretch marks
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i have been using a vibrator for ages it doesnt faze him when i use it before we go to sleep if i was a guy that would hurt my pride!
2007-03-12 20:54:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i use the toy he rolls over and goes to sleep at the start i was shy about using it in front of him but he doesnt comment and is off to sleep in secounds
2007-03-12 21:04:37 · update #1
he has not lost his drive i bj him enough and he uses porn
2007-03-12 21:31:26 · update #2
I sorry you feel unloved. I would talk to him, let him know what your feelings and needs are and that they are not being filled. Ask him why he only want the one type of sex with you and no other. It sounds like he may not know how to love you. There is not passion, or effort to satify you mentally along with sexuality. I would also find out more research about the desease he has, and find out if it makes him less active with sex or not, it may be the medication he is taking may have that effect. Do the research. God Bless and Good Luck.
2007-03-12 21:07:38 · answer #1 · answered by 1TON 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is not good you need to both go to a good counselor
Communication
You sound like you both enjoy each other and you are willing to work on it is he ?
The computer should be at the bottom of the list to the family
and differently the wife's needs .
Its great you keep yourself fit and are open to teasing him but
I can't understand how he could fall away while your hot and willing and are having fun .
Porn is not good or needed when you got a wife with a willing heart needs wants and desires .
Work on the marriage their is hope seek good help ,
Do not have any more children till this is all worked out.
2007-03-13 03:04:56 · answer #2 · answered by Duck / Deer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be suffering from Low Testosterone due to his age. ANDROPAUSE is the male equivelant of Menopause. It can show up and start in the early to mid 30s and of course comes at later ages. I was struck at the age of 38 with "my change".
It would be good to have him checked out and a simple blood test would tell you both. Testosterone Repalcement Therapy would be next if he's going through this. Before you know it, his "Octane" level would be back up, and you might and you could be walking bow-legged before you know it.
2007-03-12 21:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by The Sylvan Wizard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably a combination of his condition, age and the games on the cpu. Anyone who's lived with a gamer knows that this can be a problem. Suggest to him that you two do some things that you've never done before. Surprise him with your sexiest clothing, if you have some like that or...tell him that it's the games or you, not both. :)
2007-03-12 21:14:56 · answer #4 · answered by Iron What? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either he has loose interest or have become impotent or he find his way out with other girls and dont want to do again at home.
This is a serious matter, you have to confront him and tell him that if things does not change then you need divorce. You are too young and can find right guy again.
2007-03-12 21:11:10 · answer #5 · answered by funxxxnxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if I was not allowed to use it on wife.
2007-03-12 21:00:59 · answer #6 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if he feels performance anxiety during intercourse, or if he's worried about pregnancy?
2007-03-13 05:06:48 · answer #7 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is lousy in the sack why worry about him , look for someone new, hes an old stick in the mud.
2007-03-12 21:04:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋