that im begining to think there is no such thing as love, I just cant get my hesd round it all how people in life can get away with hurting other people so badly, As now i just feel if someone wants to get really close to me i shut them off because off past experiances will i ever find the one for me and be happy again as im finding it very hard ????
2007-03-12 20:27:10 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is harder for people who are more sensitive to bounce back, why don't you just give yourself some time to heal, keep well away from any type of relationship to protect yourself whilst you are feeling vulnerable. You will, in time, see things in a different light and be able to move on. Good luck.
2007-03-12 20:35:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u'v been hurt twice but ei anyone can experience the same thing. Everybody gets hurt at one time or another caused by break ups, two timers, bad relationships, divorce etc.. but these are all part of being a human. We work all things the best we can & afterall the best of the best and it still fails..welcome to the real world! Nothing is perfect and permanent so learn to live and let go. Give yourself a time to heal but not too much to the point of closing doors to other people whom you never know , this new guy could be the answer to all your doubts bout love. Always see things differently otherwise if you keep on dragging your past (bad that is), u'll not be able to move on & cope with life. Keep in mind that "we come & go". The only thing permanent is CHANGE... so go gurl! Be thankful that you are no longer a part of a rotten (if u consider) relationship and now open to a whole new world!! God loves you.He would not put you into a dilemma you won't overcome. Trust him- his plans are always better than your dreams.
2007-03-13 04:10:14 · answer #2 · answered by jables 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Elaine, once bitten twice shy come to mind here. You have been hurt and so you are now over cautious and over protective when someone tries to get close to you and that is VERY understandable.
Nothing hurts so bad as the pain we feel in relationships breaking down. We feel we want to shut ourselves away and never come out again for fear of being hurt again.
But somewhere out there, someone is waiting for you. They will love and cherish you as you expect to be and there is only one way to find them. Go out and look. They are there, I promise you and you will know the moment you look into their eyes.
There's no percentage in remembering the past sweetness, put it behind you and get on out there. There are plenty more pebbles on the beach and there are so many beaches to choose from.
2007-03-13 03:46:08 · answer #3 · answered by Robin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything worthwhile is always hardest to achieve, but you have to let people get close - you should just decide how close. Don't shut them out completely.
Maybe you need to look for something outside your comfort zone as the choices you have made recently have hurt you.
2007-03-13 03:37:11 · answer #4 · answered by chillipope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depend on how long you leave the last to the next relationship my advise would be to give your self breathing room and play the Field for a while do to men exactly what they do to women then and only then will you want to settle down
2007-03-16 12:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
trying too hard..can make it worse..play the game be cool..and the fizz will start to bubble again..
2007-03-13 03:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by rusty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋