i dont know what to do, we've been together for 6yrs and hes been my frist boyf since i was 17yrs old. now im 24. and he's 25. i feel i waisted 6yrs of my life in nothing. the reason is that at first he use to be so sweet and caring for me and like 3yrs ago he cheated with some girl behind my back, i forgave him cause i think you can forgive someone but expect for that person to chance. well i confronted him and the girl and they both said nothing happend. just talk and kiss. well in september 2006 i checked his phone cause he usually keep his phone away from me. so when he was in the bathroom taking a bath, he forgot to take the phone with him. so i took a peek to his numbers and there was this weird number ive never seen before. well i called and a girl picked up. she said she was with him for 5months & knew about me but though he broke up with me. he admitted he slept with her. and now i still think about it but cant trust him. he said he loves me but i dont know what to do.he lied.
2007-03-12 20:21:20 · 8 answers · asked by redbutterfly95 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you need to get out! im sorry you spent such a long time in a relationship with this guy, but he's a creep. you know the saying "fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me". You gave him a second chance, dont give him a third. If he's lied to you about this, what else has he lied about?
Oh and this wasnt a "mistake", this was full out cheating. He cant say he regrets what he did, because it lasted 5 months. Im sorry to say you're getting played. get out while you still can!
2007-03-12 20:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by PR 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard the saying Once Bitten, Twice Shy, Third Time Stupid. Trust is a hard thing to build and maintain . Better breakup with a dishonest person now that after investing another 1 or 2 years into the relation . Sometime if you stay apart for few months you both will relaise what you feel for each other and then drift apart or get back together.
2007-03-12 20:28:39 · answer #2 · answered by abhilashms2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have good news and bad news
Bad News: Dump him
Good news: call the past 6 years a learning experience, and I'm sure that you at least enjoyed some of it.
If he could keep a girl on the side like that for 5 months without you catching on, he obviously can't be trusted, and judging by past experience, I would guess he would continue to be a dirty cheater. If he really did love you he wouldn't be cheating, so unless you enjoy being used, you should dump him.
But don't feel bad about those "wasted years" I'm sure you have some happy memories, and hopefully you won't let another guy pull this kinda **** again. So kick his **** to the curb and find the guy you deserve.
2007-03-12 20:33:50 · answer #3 · answered by Pete 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The guy sounds like a repeater in the cheating department. Also, if you have been his steady girlfriend for 6 years and now live with him, and he has never talked about marriage and you are now in your mid-twenties -- that is another reason to rid yourself of this guy.
Move on with your life and find a nice, down-to-earth man interested in marriage and a home life. It may hurt now to leave him, but in the long run, your life will be better for it.
2007-03-12 20:40:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you for real. GET OUT! When your 17 you think you know everything. Then suddenly once you're out of college and get your feet into the real world you realized how much you don't know. That's what's happening. You both are growing up. He cheated on you for crying out loud. Have some respect for yourself. He did it once and you forgave him and he did it again. Are you actually going to believe him again when he tells you it won't happen again. You guys had your fun now its time to move on and find a healthy relationship. Stay single for a while and have some fun, find yourself. But dump the loser.
2007-03-12 20:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by Rick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's favourite to be curious. that's favourite to be bodily attracted to different men. i'm optimistic your boyfriend has flirted and thinks approximately those issues too, whether he hasn't informed you. you ought to no longer experience to blame, every person has the stray theory come of their head and would even fantasize approximately it. yet once you have become closer to performing on it, you ought to think of approximately why you're feeling this form. Are you bored? Then boost your love existence. Are you unhappy alongside with your boyfriend? Then discover the thank you to artwork it out. additionally examine, is an undemanding fling worth messing up an amazing courting? I advise in case you and this different guy had deep emotions for the different, i might say you ought to take a seat down and decide. yet whilst that's basic charm, think of approximately it: when you sleep with him, he would go approximately his employer, and your guy will leave you. Is it worth it?
2016-11-25 00:02:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
save yourself anymore time from being lost and get rid of him as soon as you can. obviously you cant trust him, youll never be able to trust him, so whats the point of having a relationship.. you could be stress free and just be friends with benis.
2007-03-12 20:26:31 · answer #7 · answered by Ed D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its simple two things really, once a cheat always a cheat and if he loved you truly he would never have done it to begin with.
-NmD!
2007-03-12 20:25:55 · answer #8 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋