In a club, on the street, in a cafe. Guys only view other guys as sex objects. We are told to celebrate the gay culture during Mardi Gras and Pride Week, but what's to celebrate?
Gay *culture* is about body worship, immediate sexual gratification. What about friendship?
Why do gay men only *befriend* other gay men who they find sexually attractive? Do all your gay friends have to be good-looking?
2007-03-12 20:10:32 · 13 answers · asked by Just Ask Ashley 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
LOL, that isn't true at all. If people ignore you it would probably have to do more with the attitude you put out more than simply not finding you sexually attractive. Pretentious, obnoxious people do tend to be ignored and many of them simply don't understand why they can't find a friend(non-sexual) and in turn act even more pretentious and obnoxious.
2007-03-12 23:55:06 · answer #1 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say it depends where you go to form friendships and where you 'cross' that line between being a gay friendship and a straight relationship. All friendships (in my humble opinion) are based on some form of attraction. Therefore when you are (for example) two gay men, it is inevitable that sex is going to come into it at some point. It doesn't mean you have to have sex or even want to have sex to become friends it just means it will come into the equation. If you are finding relationships on the 'scene' then it is hardly surprising that alot of those kind of attractions revolve around the superficial. However it is possible to have same sex relationships in a variety of other places and in these kind of situations the attraction will not purely stem from the superficial. Sometimes you might not even recognise it as 2 gay men (for example) being attracted to each other, but it is there however hidden it might be by other reasons for friendship.
The point is that people are only human the 'scene' is full of the sperficial because that is what going out, drinking and drugs does it makes the superficial real. However gay relationships happen (in the majority of cases for me) elsewhere and for a variety of reasons - so to me there is plenty to celebrate. Yes, I have had reason to be jaded, but I have plenty of reason not be as I have some great friends and hope it will always stay that way!
2007-03-12 20:46:20 · answer #2 · answered by waggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gay culture, while beautiful, truly is far removed from the reality of gay life. Just because I'm gay doesn't necesarily mean that, because you're gay too, we should be best friends. Being attracted to the same gender barely qualifies as a common interest, and quite frankly I find that I don't innately have any more of a reason to start a friendship with another gay than I do with a hetero.
2007-03-12 21:28:21 · answer #3 · answered by lordwashu13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm gay one hundred%, yet I at the instant have relatively of an charm in the direction of a woman. this is easily no longer something arousing however. I only think of she's exceedingly, and if I have been on the instant, i might probably choose to date her. In my concepts, I confer with it as a "female weigh down", like the crushes that some on the instant ladies get for different ladies. :)
2016-11-25 00:02:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just unlucky I suppose. Because I was USAF I traveled a lot and made huge groups of friends - some I have managed to retain throughout the years some I have lost contact with. The friendships I have had and maintained have encompassed many different ethnicity's and body types, many different intelligence levels, many different people. And I know by experience my friends have the same type of friends in their lives.
It sounds like you are just down in the dumps about something. Most people establish friendships based on common interests not looks.
I hope things brighten up for your outlook!
Tab
2007-03-13 03:56:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. I don't care what my friends look like. I think that you are living in a different culture of gay people than I do..Gay culture to me is just being attracted to men...there is no body worship, immediate sexual gratification because there is no gratification in any of that.....Most gay guys I see on the street are more interested in who's looking at them than who they are looking at.
2007-03-12 21:15:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're quite right that in certain social situations, looks are everything in the gay community. I have found that there are alternatives to the scene that often perpetuates this problem.
There are many social groups that eliminate this stereotypical behaviour - If you look in your local gay paper (if there is one for your city/area) or online you should be able to find something along those lines.
Don't give up - it's too easy to do and it'll only hurt yourself. There are those of us out there that don't accept that type of attitude... I'd like to think that I have a good mix of friends and that they are not my friends based on their gender or looks, rather upon their personality.
Good luck! :)
2007-03-12 20:23:38 · answer #7 · answered by psionyxau 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ashley, you have a good point there. It's just that the mentality of the large population is when a gay man approaches someone, that guy must have some sort of design on him. That's why it's quickly ignored so as to put it down immediately. Sounds unfair, huh?
2007-03-12 20:17:35 · answer #8 · answered by Dowland 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe they just don't like you. You seem pretty negative and I tend to stay away from people who are so down about things.
2007-03-13 04:53:33 · answer #9 · answered by JW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not how my friend circle works. We befriend anyone interresting
2007-03-12 20:27:30 · answer #10 · answered by (",) JJ (,") 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋