When I was with my ask it was a good relationship. I got pregnant with his child and six months in my pregnancy he changed. He treated like gum on the bottom of his shoe. I finally told him to leave when are daughter was five months. I found someone new and so has he, but we always finds a way to try to interfere w/ my relationship. What's the nicest way, w/out harsh words to exchange, to tell him to move on?
2007-03-12 19:34:19 · 6 answers · asked by Crystal H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What a loser and a total bumb that he doesn't love the mother of his own child. Sometimes, your actions speak louder than words. You have to remove yourself from the places where he is. If he just shows up at your doorstep - move away and don't say where you're going. The opposite of love is not hate - it's indifference so if you can't ignore him and remove yourself from him - then you haven't really moved on either. Change your contact information. If he does visit with your child it is more of a challenge but it doesn't sound like he gives a rip about the child. If he has to be involved in your life on some level, then you simply have to pull back emotionally totally and there is no way to be completely nice about it if they guy is being pushy. Remove yourself from any unecessary interaction. Tell him you have to go make a phone call, go wash your hair - anything to say without saying - get lost.
2007-03-12 19:41:18 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he caused enough damage in your life and that you are now protective. If he has any respect for you, he should leave you alone! Tell him you forgive him and that you let him go and you set him free. What works best is preaching! Trust me! Every time he encounters in your life again, just tell him everything you think of him that he's doing wrong. Tell him how he needs to change his life and do something to be a better person! Tell him to go to church and repent for everything he has done! Tell him that only God can now fill his void, you are out of the picture! Be all smart, cold and educated with him. Do not worry if he likes you or not, and he will leave you alone, it works...
2007-03-13 02:41:00 · answer #2 · answered by timekiller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you are busy with your own family life and that you have no more time to talk to him so much as before. I think he will get the hint.
2007-03-13 02:38:51 · answer #3 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you have a child in common you cant keep him out of your life at all, simply tell him to leave you alone. thats all i can think of, then if it gets abusive you can get a restraining order.
2007-03-13 02:37:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u guyz have a mutual bond "child" so how do u expect him to disappear. but u can talk to him abt it.
2007-03-13 02:39:45 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he,s obsesed exspecily because of haveing a kid with you.
2007-03-13 02:38:18 · answer #6 · answered by i,m here if you need to talk. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋