I'm never happy enough to comitt all the way in a relationship is it me?

Question

I've been engaged 3 timesand almost engaged a lot of times but never married.It's not that no one wants to marry me.I just think people don't take marriage serious enough and I'm scared...some of the most successful marriages were a failure in my opinion.I want to be really sure of happiness and I know being independent I understand everything clearly on my own. is that so wrong ????Is lonely just an explanation we use fill a void to be like everyone else? I know people don't wanna die alone,but I won't I'll die and meet God.

Answer 1

Letting others' actions in "their" relationships effect how you feel about your own is never a good thing. It is sabatoging every relationship you've been in.Try to remember everyone is different, and handle situations in their own way. Give yourself a chance.

Answer 2

I feel the same way, but I only got engaged once and I decided to break it up because I wasn't in love for my fiance anymore. I knew I would not make him or me happy. After him, I have had long relationships but the whole disappointments caused in a relationship, which is common, have made me loose the feeling of trying something stronger, like getting married or living together. Every time that things start to get complicated, I leave the person, plus none of them never have made me feel so in love as I felt for my former fiance.
Maybe the dream we have alive in our mind, can only be lived in there, the reality is that things might not be the way we expected to be....very inside somewhere we know that, and our fears takes controls of our mind of loosing the chance of having that with someone else, so we never get married over the fear that maybe the person is still out there waiting for us and we think we have to take more time or being more patience to look for the right guy.
On my opinion the worst thing of die alone is to spend all your life with a bad company and die with it. I rather die alone, than dedicate my life for a men that doesn't worth my care. If I die alone, at least I will know, I won't wasted the best of me and my love with saomeone who doesn't deserve a minute of my time. No one deserve my care and love than myself.
Now, if happens of your or me, really find a guy that is what we want and we feel great about loving and caring about him, because he worths our love, than it will be wonderful to leave the rest of ours life with that person.
I know very few people who are complete together and are very happy with each other. I hope that one day, I can become one of them.

Answer 3

1. Your approach is appriciable, have patience and continew in searching the like minded partner. One day you will get your correct partner , even if you could not get right partner , then you have your independency which is most precious in the life.