I am currently living in CA (my bf said he would buy me the ticket and all) and now my mom has been trying to find reasons for me not to go and trying to make me feel like going to see him is a bad choice, but I want to see him! Then she says she wants to talk to him about this whole relationship we have and where it's going and all....but I am so afraid she's going to scare him off!! So what exactly do I do?
2007-03-12 19:23:56 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm 23, the problem is...I still live at home, my mom is a single mother and I depend her somewhat for stuff. So plus, she comes from a conservative, catholic Mexican family who hold morals and honor to the highest degree.
2007-03-13 04:13:40 · update #1
Oh and no, I didn't meet my bf online, I met him like 3 years ago in college, but we were only friends back then.
2007-03-13 04:14:43 · update #2
Let your mom talk to him because if he gets scared off then you should not be with him...plus if she talks to him it will probably make her feel more secure and you more secure...and if he wants to pay for your ticket he should not have a problem talking to your mom
2007-03-12 19:28:58 · answer #1 · answered by djsbabygirl2005 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
How old are you? If you are a high school kid I would say that there would be no way that you would ever go to Texas, or anywhere else that you would have to stay with said boyfriend, as long as I was your mother. Why is your mother being so wishy-washy? Doesn't she know how to say "No"? If you were my daughter you'd die of self-pity before you ever saw the inside of that guys house.
If you are 18 or older you can make your own decisions without asking your mom's permission. However, even that would be a bad idea if you expect your mom to continue supporting you as, apparently, she is. If you don't care if she kicks you out then do whatever you want to do.
2007-03-13 02:34:22 · answer #2 · answered by Tabitha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it would be best if you let your mom talk to your boyfriend first. because you can never convince your mom to let you go not unless she trusts your boyfriend first. let her get to knowhim better. if she finds your boyfriend trustworthy enough, she will surely let you go. your mom just probably wants you to be safe.
you can also ask your boyfriend to come over to your place instead. that way, you're on your own turf andyour mom will not worry so much about you. once your mom sees that the two of you are both responsible, she will surely go easy on you the next time you ask for her permission.
2007-03-13 02:29:22 · answer #3 · answered by machi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 18, get out on your own, work support yourself and do what you want.
If you aren't 18, or are being supported by mama, then what she says goes. If you are under 18 and mama says yes, she should be ashamed of herself.
2007-03-13 03:31:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im 28 and ive learned that my parents were always right when it came to my boyfriends, your mom really loves you and she doesnt want you to get hurt, she might see something in him that doesnt sit right with her I think you should listen to her you will thank her later.
2007-03-13 02:29:00 · answer #5 · answered by violet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? And did you meet him off the internet?
2007-03-13 02:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mom has a bad feeling, then she's probably right. always trust instincts!
2007-03-13 03:11:22 · answer #7 · answered by Mystikal51 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she just worried , sum may happen 2 u but if u are grown then u have the right to make your own decsions
2007-03-13 02:27:55 · answer #8 · answered by stratusfan101 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how old are you??? under 18? you have to do what your mom says then. thats all their is to it, she doesnt trust that guy, he could come see you just as easy.
2007-03-13 02:28:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old are you?
2007-03-13 02:26:58 · answer #10 · answered by Chrissy #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋