He told me to hang on for another day,he will tell me,whether he can make me happy or not,if he can make me happy,we will move on and he change for the better,to not cheat on me again.If he can't make me happy like he did last time,its over between e both of us.It was partly my fault too,coz i didnt love him at his worst state,i get carried away too much till i ask for a breakup,but for him,it still isnt over.He cheat on me by making frens with another girl and they fooled around in his car,that was when we were on e verge of breaking up(since i ask for it),n he told me its his fault coz he took e easiest way out,but fooling wif another girl.Until that girl called me and told me everything abt my bf,wen she knew im his partner.She realised it now though.But they were juz frens.My partner even told lies to her.I dont believe that once a cheater,is forever a cheater,i believe dat ppl change,but tell me,how do i trust his again??n he told me that his love for me was real.
2007-03-12 19:22:27 · 8 answers · asked by rose etoiles 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i believe that people can change if they really want to.
i don't know your whole situation, and i don't want to give you bad advice; but it sounds like you are giving him way too much control of the situation.
you said that "if he decides" he can make you happy you will move on, and you think that you are partly to blame because you didn't love him at his worst. what was his worst??
look at your feeling. do you really love him, or are you afraid to be alone? if you truly love him and you believe that he loves you then try to make it work. if this has happened before, and you believe in your heart that it will happen again then you should move on.
i have been married for thirty years. believe me when i say that it takes both people working together to make it work. you have to care more for your partners happiness (or at least as much) than your own. there has to be trust, but they shouldn't give you a reason not to.
i know that this is a hard decision and you shouldn't make it lightly. think - would i be better off without this person in my life? do i want to face each day without them in my life?
when you can answer these things honestly to yourself then make your choice and stand by it.
good luck and i will keep you in my thoughts.
bb
2007-03-12 19:41:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fixing up again is very hard decision and leaving him is easy. Life is too short to go hard way and wasting much of its time. Enjoy every days of your life with some one you find new who loves and cares about you.
He is not worth you, Once a cheater always a cheater.. let him go on his own way..
2007-03-12 19:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by funxxxnxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try consolingif that don,t work then leave him he proved to you he dis respects you.i know some guy that cheated only once and never again, so it .s a mythof once a cheater all ways a cheater.by twice mean there not room for for giveness.
2007-03-12 19:33:54 · answer #3 · answered by i,m here if you need to talk. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater. Find someone who is honest. Quit holding on to this guy. Don't let it hurt you or at least don't let it show.
2007-03-12 19:37:47 · answer #4 · answered by felippie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you old enough to be asking about a situation like this? He's getting what he wants from both ends, and if he was sincere with you, he wouldn't have gone to another female with such a lame excuse. If you didn't want him why did you have a relationship, it sounds like immaturity on both your ends.
2007-03-12 19:34:43 · answer #5 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it is time to let go.No relationship should take this much work.I know it takes two to break up but it takes 3 to fix it,if you want to try again you need to try couples counseling
2007-03-12 19:26:28 · answer #6 · answered by mother hen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him for good. No excuses on whether it was your fault or his. He cheated on you. You don't deserve a guy who plays and treats you like that. You know better. You deserve someone who'll treat you right.
2007-03-12 19:27:30 · answer #7 · answered by Cardiophobia <3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's how you deal with it ,are you committed on making your relationship work?
If not walk away.
2007-03-12 20:50:48 · answer #8 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋