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I am having a heart cath and stents procedure in about 9 hours and yet my mother just called me ( middle of the night) to start screaming at me about how i didn't stop an ice storm 2 years ago from ruining her stuff and then she starts telling me she hopes i die since i didn't save her stuff. Heck all my stuff, my sister's mothers stuff and my grandmothers stuff was ruined in the storm and yet she picks tonight of all nights to flip out on me. I told her i couldn't control the weather and that i couldn't deal with her problems right now and her reply was " Well i've never understood you anyhow so why don't you just die. I will be praying for your death". I am so upset that i just can't stop thinking about it and i can't sleep. Considering when i had surgery in Dec. i almost died ( my organs started shutting down) i can't believe what a cruel, heartless b**ch she is. I can't help believing she really wants me to die for something i had no control over. I know i need to calm down but how

2007-03-12 19:22:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

12 answers

don't kick her to the curb, kick her all the way into the street, think about yourself for a change, your mother needs psychiatric help and it is up to her to get it, worry about yourself, pick up your self respect, hold your head high and go on with your life.

2007-03-13 02:06:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

OMG! Two trains of thought. She's either terribly frightened and doesn't want to deal with it or admit it, so lash out at you because she feels truly helpless (because many times parents blame themselves for their children's helath problems even though it's caused by no fault of their own - my mom freaked out when they found out I was deaf and kept saying over and over "Nobody in our family has problems, we're all healthy. I don't know where you got this. I didn't do anything wrong. I was so careful when I was pregnant to do everything right. This is not my fault." ) So basically, she was in denial, and taking it personally, when she shouldn't have. Or sadly, your mom is a horrible, selfish, evil woman, and your illness takes attention away from her!!. Either way, it doesn't matter; my prayers and thoughts are with you, as I'm sure will be many others. And you had better let me know how you are after surgery, because now, I won't be able to sleep!!! God bless and keep you safe. May the love of God surround you, the light of God enfold you, the presence of God protect you, and may you know that wherever you are, he is! Now go to sleep and trust that all will be well, and that somebody, if only a total stranger, cares about you and is remembering you in her prayers.

2007-03-13 02:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by amiaskan 4 · 1 0

I am so sorry for you. It's really hard to say why your mother would do this to you. But, you don't need this additional stress. Tell the nurses not to put through any calls from her or allow her to visit. I know it will be difficult, but try to put her out of your mind right now and concentrate on your health. You can address "her" problem when you have recovered from surgery.

2007-03-13 02:59:38 · answer #3 · answered by ginger 4 · 1 0

I think she is in pain, and is angry because you could possibly die. She doesn't want to face it, she is indeed angry but she doesn't know who to be angry at or why. That is really a shame. I have gone through similar situations with my daughter and my mom. They really don't mean what they are saying at all, they just don't know how to cope and they are really hurting. It is much easier to be angry then to break down and show you how she really feels. My suggestion to you is just tell her as soon as you get out of the hosp. God permitting that you will try to see what you can possible do to find her stuff or what ever works for her but one thing at a time first you have to get your health back first and foremost than you can see what you can do about her precious stuff. Take care of yourself and my prayers will be with you.

2007-03-13 02:41:17 · answer #4 · answered by teffy2toes 2 · 1 0

You have to block out that phone call and forget about and avoid your mother for a while.Job #1 right now is keeping yourself calm and thinking about positive things and if you are a believer pray for the strength to endure.

2007-03-13 22:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by xxx 4 · 1 0

Your mother is certifiably INSANE. I'd say you were entirely justified in cutting this complete lunatic out of your life.

Leave the phone off the hook, and get some rest. Try to empty your mind of all worries, and be at peace. You'll need all your strength and energy to recuperate from your surgery.

Best wishes to you, sweetie.

2007-03-13 02:32:49 · answer #6 · answered by Guernica 3 · 1 0

your mother may be mentally deficient as others have said but remember shes still your mother and nothing can change that trust me my mother used to be pretty bad.

the best way i like to calm down and that i've done since kinder garden is to take slow deep breaths and count backwards from 10 or 100.

get well. put on a happy face:)

2007-03-13 02:38:57 · answer #7 · answered by steroidz 1 · 0 1

I cannot believe that you haven't dropped this crazy bit*h years ago. What is it with people who feel that HAVE to keep people in their lives just because of some blood relationship. That is totally moronic.

Get that woman out of your life, and DO NOT forgive and forget.

2007-03-13 03:35:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

For her to even say that, she is probably freaking out more than you. Maybe she was drunk or having a nervous breakdown?

Maybe she's trying to jinx you so you DON'T die.

I hope you come out okay!

2007-03-13 02:27:01 · answer #9 · answered by Alaina 2 · 0 0

cruel, heartless bi**ch is an understatement, kick her to the curb and don't look back, good luck on your surgery

2007-03-13 09:00:14 · answer #10 · answered by kat 6 · 2 0

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