It has been 3 months since I have been told by my wife's close lady friend that my wife told her she had an affair. I confronted my wife at the time and she said it was all an imagination story. At the time I believed her and we are still married, however it is bothering her when any there is any mention what was said by her lady friend and she just kept explaining that she only gave her a couple of drops of information and what her friend told me was blown-blown out to a lot of things she said that did not happen. My wife is tense when there is any mention about her friend and last night when she talked about her I asked what were "the two couple of drops" she told to her friend. My wife went furious and upset which now makes me believe she being trapped from her own secrets and perhaps lies and I think within time the truth will come out. Has any one had the similar experience?
2007-03-12 19:19:12 · 19 answers · asked by maleinaus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok , she goofed and went out with someone else, drop it now or else just tell her you want a divorce. all this playing at finding out is a load of crap, and the so called friend is likely like a couple of friends i had, they are unhappy so they dont want anyone around them to be happy.
2007-03-12 19:22:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-10-18 06:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by corbo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister Noel did, she came "clean" about everything when he told her she was leaving the house that night and she would have nothing not even her good name.
He divorced her anyway, but this has got to end now for your piece of mind!
Give her one chance and tell her you are prepard to through her out into the night without a penny and start divorce perceeding against her at once !
Tell her NO MORE LYING AND START COMING WITH TRUTH OR ELSE, and mean it.
Your marriage is now at that stag that its something called lyres bluff and you need honesty to respect her and right now you don't sound like you respect her very much!
2007-03-12 20:31:14 · answer #3 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like it's a very close friend to your wife now does it? I would have to think she has motives of her own for mouthing off something like this. Another thing, if it's a made up story (imagination or fantasy), she might be a little paranoid that you wouldn't like it so naturally she gets upset. Talk to her about the fantasy without accusing her, you might want to be involved in it.
2007-03-12 19:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by jimmer256 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The signs are everywhere, my friend, and I hurt for you. She may still be seeing somebody. If this is the marriage you want, and she doesn't, let her fly. I know it is easier said than done, but she has to make a choice, and YOU have to make her choose. Then, politely walk away and leave her to the 'fling' who is only in it for the sex.
And, what kind of person tells another person that their spouse is having an affair? What did your wife's so-called friend have to gain from it? YOU??? Does she want YOU? Don't gimme that crap about 'OH, it was my doooooooty to telleth yew!'
Criky, how can you trust ANY women after this?
2007-03-12 19:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by ravin_lunatic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but she did have an affair and probably more that you have yet to hear about.. Now it's up to you how to handle it.. You can forgive but I promise you ONCE a cheater always a cheater.. You haven't seen the end... I read stars advise (she goofed???) and that just about explains it.. Some people see no harm in it as they themselves can't be trusted.. But there is harm... the trust is gone and can never be regained... I don't care how hard you try... So Star keep with you immature thoughts and you will never find real happiness in life.
2007-03-12 19:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife cannot be honest with you you have a big problem. If she goes crazy when the other girl is mentioned she is certainly guilty of something. Maybe she is afraid of what you will do, maybe afraid you will hurt her. I would suggest counseling or separation because this will ruin your life's. She made a mistake she needs to deal with. You need to make other plans without her. She isn't worth it if indeed she screwed around. This is a very Dangerous situation. Be Careful
2007-03-12 19:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by felippie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A long time ago and a earlier relationship than now I constantly lied about having or rather not having an affair. She is definitely lying. Great friend she had!!!! I reckon the friend would be enjoying all this drama that she has created.
2007-03-12 19:26:33 · answer #8 · answered by karena k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It serves to verify that women cannot keep their own secrets and others' secrets. You can play it game on her for a while.
My bet is it did happen and it is probably not hard to find out more. That's why she is nervous about the whole thing. It's like taking a lie detector test, if you haven't done anything, you have command of the situation.
2007-03-12 19:25:44 · answer #9 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a friend like that; who needs ennemies? This is all gossips and who does not have secrets of their own? Perhaps you do too, but unlike your wife you do not have a confident who betrayed your trust and acted out of jealousy or spite.
I had an experience similar to this one and it made me very upset when I found out the betrayal because I was suspicious about this person's motives and had told her a bunch of tales which she believed true. I found out about how right I was on my suspiscions but I also lived through hell because of it!
Yes truth always comes out! But sometimes it is too late
2007-03-12 19:38:02 · answer #10 · answered by montralia 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If there weren't some truth to be uncovered, do you think your wife would get so angry at the mention of any of this? If she had nothing to hide, she would most likely be relaxed and confident and unafraid. The truth, whatever that may be, will come out eventually. It always does.
2007-03-12 19:48:57 · answer #11 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋