i am in love with a divorced mum. Both of us are very much in love . The problem is.... her ex husband most of the time stay at her house . My gf saying for her son sake i have to hang on . But i cant take it . Am i to jelousy or is it normal ? i love her so much .. help me
2007-03-12 19:03:58 · 11 answers · asked by omen_13fri 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hate to be the one to tell you this but she is stringing you along , If it was truly over with her ex believe me he wouldn't be staying at her house for any reason, and people who do let the ex stay for the child only makes it worse on the child.
Kick her to the curb and find some one who is honest with you.
You are being jealous and it is normal for you to feel that way. Good Luck too ya hun.
2007-03-12 19:12:35 · answer #1 · answered by stormyjoem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is abosolutely normal. You as a new bf, when at your gf house and if her ex is there, definetely you will not like to be there, or enjoy lovely moment together as some third person is there who knows what is going on. Better you ask your gf to get rid of him, if she says about son, if you are willing to take responsibility of her son, then tell her that you will take the responsibility of her son as well but on the condition that her ex should not come to her or your house to see the son. If she is not ready for this, forget her and find some one else.
2007-03-13 02:21:40 · answer #2 · answered by funxxxnxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for you to feel this way. I would advise that the ex staying over at the house is only going to make the kid think they are staying together.
I think this is one of those tragic situations that no matter how much you love each other, you may have to give her an ultimatum and then move on if she doesn't comply.
Also, has it ever occured to you that because you "can't" be together you have stronger love feelings because it's sort of forbidden.
2007-03-13 02:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by GranolaGurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you are jealous, you are madly in love. If i were in your boat I would feel the same way. But when there are kids in the picture they always come first. You have to trust her motherly insticnts. What happens now with her and her ex, is going to have a very big impact on her son, trying to speed up the process will only affect your future relationship with him, but you can only wait for so long right. Just remember he's her ex for a reason. Hang in there, love is very strong and it will surprise you when you least expect it. Good luck!
2007-03-13 02:10:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away. It may sound harsh, but there's a complexity to this dynamic that will end up damaging everyone involved to some degree if this situation stays the same. To attempt to develop an interpersonal relationship under these conditions will be next to impossible. Save yourself (and everyone else) the grief and walk away. There are other fish in the sea.
2007-03-13 02:53:06 · answer #5 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man you have a right to your feelings and I'd feel the same if I did not have kids too as for him staying there wow but you need to remember they are going to be in each others life's for a long time they have kids together are you ready for this if you are then get used to it if you trust her then it's ok they need to see each other" him and the kids" may be it's a way for him to see his children so she can feel safe that he's not going to run of with them?
2007-03-13 02:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by Doc S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is divorced why is he staying in her house and why does she let him if she loves you . I don't blame you for being jealous.I would want to no what was going on with the two of them. Is she playing with you? I would ask her just where the two of you stand.
2007-03-13 02:34:15 · answer #7 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, if your g/f is being honest with you, then the fact that the kid's dad goes to see him has nothing to do with your being with her. She only has to let him know that she's seeing you if they are truly not together, and her ex should go on about his life.
2007-03-13 02:10:05 · answer #8 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her ex should not be staying at her house. if it is so he can visit the child then he should have a home of his own to visit at or take the child to mcdonald's or something.
2007-03-13 02:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by baconbit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely normal.
2007-03-13 02:08:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋