Can the "friends with benefits factor" lead to a committed relationship? If both parties are both establishing there futures alone before they include the other person in their life officially, will the couple last or fail? Please tell me why it would or why it wouldnt? How many couples do you know that suceeded with the friends with benifits option?
2007-03-12 19:00:30 · 7 answers · asked by OOhSooFlyyyy....... 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
It's especially good for the guys, and especially harmful to women.
2007-03-12 19:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the point of friends with benefits is NO COMMITMENT!!!!
you should not even be THINKING of future plans with this person! that is the point!
YOU ARE NOT A COUPLE! do not think like that!
the point of sex with a friend is that you two are not compatible for a relationship!!!! and just enjoy physical intimacy!
i know maybe 2 couples that started like this but it was because a series of events brought them together EVENTUALLY. they did not intend to be couples.
neither party in a friends with benefits situation should ever begin thinking they will be a couple. it breaks the primary rule of the agreement. (and men break this rule just as much as women!)
often men cant get over the jealousy and possessiveness issues, even in an fwb relationship. they still want to be the ONLY ONE. also men can want a certain amount of affection from you, after sex cuddling etc. ive had a few guys who were down for a while but then wanted relationships because they didnt like being "used". lol. i'd never thought i'd hear that from a guy.
its certainly not for everybody.
2007-03-12 20:14:46 · answer #2 · answered by jean grey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I haven't met anyone in this kind of relationship where it has actually worked in the long term. I have met plenty who have been friends before falling for each other, but not just friends with sex on the side.
I believe it doesn't work because it requires you to see someone as a chunk of meat. As serving a purpose. If you are just friends - where is the commitment?
And why are you having sex with this person? Because it is convenient and easy and there are no strings attached. In that type of environment a relationship cannot survive.
Hollywood likes to protray these types of relationships as always working out - but in real life they don't. How can you reconcile seeing someone as just an easy, quick lay and then go to loving them?
2007-03-12 19:06:16 · answer #3 · answered by noncrazed 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Friends With Benefits" is NOT for everybody. That's because people have things called "feelings", and they seem
to get in the way of two people enjoying the "benefits" part of
this scene. Also, some of the benefits can result in unwanted
pregnancies, STD's, broken marriages, and flaring tempers.
Emotions get wrapped around the benefits, then the friends
find themselves in a situation they didn't expect.
Be absolutely sure you know what you're getting into before
you agree to a "friends with benefits" relationship.
2007-03-12 19:14:40 · answer #4 · answered by SlownEasy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this type of relationship a couple of times-it depends on what you want. If neither one stresses over "where's the relationship going" I think it could lead to long term satisfaction. One guy I was with like this abused my trust in areas not related to sex and I couldn't forget. The other man-I moved away and we are friends to this day.
2007-03-12 19:06:39 · answer #5 · answered by barbara 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you go into it with the hope for a future long term relationship, both or either can get hurt. If you go into it AS friends and your eyes wide open it can be advantageous for both parties. I had the GREATEST f.w.b. experience, but we were both happy with the arrangement. I loved him and he loved me but not married ever after kind of love. I could go on and probably get censored. But it can be great.
2007-03-12 19:14:27 · answer #6 · answered by Bains Gram 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been friends with benifits with almost all of my past girlfriends. and still am with most of them.
2007-03-12 19:08:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋