Is there a way to help become committed.. after being in an opened relationship with the person? Why is this so hard.. is there anything i can doooooo?
2007-03-12 18:33:25 · 5 answers · asked by Denise G 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, you were in a relationship that didn't require you to be committed to anything.
Commitment requires discipline and love. To be committed to something it has to mean something to you - be an important part of your life. So, in a relationship, true commitment comes from love for another person.
You are coming from one extreme and going straight into another. You have to decide for yourself what you is truly important to you. There is no quick fix for this. You have to get yourself back into the mindset of commitment. That you can't just brush things off.
And look closely at your relationship. Where are you going with this person? Is this just a rebound or is there something more there - love or a deep caring for them? If the latter does not exist, then commitment is not coming because it can't. You can't committ to something you don't care about. In that case, restart. Find a person you can care about and commitment will come more naturally.
2007-03-12 18:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by noncrazed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I'm not committed to my life. Sometimes, you have to let go. Walking away is difficult, but usually in these situations, even an answer won't fix the issue. The underlying issue will still be there. Only instead of you being the one with the issue, your partner is. Obviously your partner has problems with commitment... in the end that will just spell more trouble. You have to make the decision that is in the best interest of both of you. You both apparently want different things. Find someone who is committed to YOU. Continue on this road, and you will crash and burn. Good luck, Sweetie.
2007-03-13 04:50:41 · answer #2 · answered by urbania05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can help you become committed. Commitment is a personal choice.
Understand what you really want from life... maybe being committed is not what of 'em. Don't force yourself to be committed when you're really not. It's like swimming against the tide.
2007-03-13 01:40:30 · answer #3 · answered by Jivan S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either are in the relationship or not. If you don't feel that the feelings are there, nothing will bring them back. Time to move on and find something or someone else that will bring you happiness. Don't push what doesn't move. Can't get a round pet into a square hole.
2007-03-13 01:43:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah., you can take charge of your life...you don't have to drift around waiting for things to change...Make them change if you're unhappy about them.
2007-03-13 04:27:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋