Does physical abuse run in families?? Please help!!?

Question

I was just wondering, does physical abuse run in families?? Or where does it come from?? Where does bad anger and mean - ness come from?? For someone who doesn't drink (except on special occasions, which is very rarely) and who's fathers father beat his wife, is it possible for him (the child) to do the same thing?? Or at least some of the same stuff?? The only thing the childs father did while they were growing up was yell alot. He never laid on hand on any of the kids. Just wondering. Thanks for your help.

Answer 1

Were you spanked or slapped as a child for doing something wrong? If you were, you were taught to hit. Yelling and demeaning another person is also a terrible abuse of power....and you watched it....and you watched him beat your mother....do you have any idea what thoughts that puts in a kid's mind? He thinks it's OK to do that, because Dad did it. THat 's why we have so much wife abuse in this country...it is passed down from generation to generation. Does it mean you are going to do this with a family of your own?...no, you don't have to...but you had the lessons from your own family. It's up to you to watch your temper if you have one, and take responsibility for what you do. If you feel it gets out of control with any body, seek help with anger management classes...there is help out there for you.

Answer 2

Its possible that they child can later in life do the same thing. Children mimic what they see. Most who are abusive saw adults around them either being beaten or was beaten some one. But considering the child only viewed a lot of yelling I would think that they could have a hot temper or hold it in till the cant take it any more and explode.

Answer 3

It's possible, but every case is different. My father was beaten severely and often by his dad growing up, but my dad never laid a hand on me. However, he does have an anger problem and sometimes he tries to hit me or my sister. He's divorced, and during the divorce process, he used to get into physical fights with my mother.

So, it is very possible that it's a genetic thing, but one should also be able to control himself/herself.

There's a song called "Way Down The Line" by The Offspring that has elements of this in it. According to the song, abuse IS genetic. Here are the lyrics:

Nothing changes cause it‘s all the same
The world you get‘s the one you give away
It all just happens again
Way down the line
There is a chain that‘s never broken
You know the story it‘s sad but true
An angry man gets drunk and beats his kids
The same old way his drunken father did
What comes around well it goes around
Nothing changes cause it‘s all the same
The world you get‘s the one you give away
It all just happens again
Way down the line

At 17 Shannon is pregnant
As young as her mom when she had her
Her kid is never gonna have a dad
The same old way that Shannon never had
What comes around well it goes around
Nothing changes cause it‘s all the same
The world you get‘s the one you give away
It all just happens again
Way down the line
And all the things you learn when you‘re a kid
You‘ll f*** up just like your parents did
It all just happens again
Way down the line

And welfare moms have kids on welfare
And fat parents they have fat kids too
You know it‘s never gonna end
The same old cycle‘s gonna start again
What comes around well it goes around

Answer 4

there's no gene that says someone will be abusive or not. But it a parent is abused, chances are the child will abuse their children and so on.

If you talk it out, don't just keep it a secret, let someone know, and you wont do it. You seemed concerned about it, I'm positive you wont do it. I promise, you're one of the good guys

Answer 5

Its entirely possible, its a learned behavior. Little boy sees father being abusive, he thinks that is the way it is supposed to be. That's why children need positive role models. They watch us constantly and learn by how we act and talk.

Answer 6

Abuse does seem to run in vicious cycles, children of abusers becoming abusers. I dont know if this is a proven fact but I have always heard this to be true.

Answer 7

I really don't think that it is in your genetically, but if you are a child who continuously saw your mother and father degrading each other and physically fighting with eash other, then the answer is yes. Yup. Si'. Definitely.

Answer 8

Its very possible for an adult to repeat behavior they saw in the relationships directly surrounding them as a chil. However, since his dada wasn't the one who did it, it was his grandpa, its lessens the chances. Or-he might just be someone like me-determined not to repeat negative behavior.

Answer 9

it can if you were abused then you would be emotionaly traumatised so you might hurt you children and it keeps goin on till someon decides to change

Answer 10

yes