2007-03-12 18:23:50 · 29 answers · asked by rokdude5 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wife said she was glad at time until she saw how much it hurt me.
2007-03-12 18:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not married but have been involved in many affairs. the marrage is on the rocks when a lady has one. guys have them at a drop of a hat. Most ladies are sad about the affair as it means some big changes in store for them. They do it to enjoy some bit of enjoyment in a bad relationship with no future and to prove to themselves that they are still desirable and able to find a man. The ladies don't regret it and arn't really glad either just trying to have some one show them some love one way or the other. these are ladies 35 to 50 I deal with and most are divorced in 6 months. The cause is the male has lost interest in them. I tell them to get out while they have some good life left to start over.
2007-03-20 04:31:12 · answer #2 · answered by dale j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Affairs happen for a number of reasons. Technically I had one since I was seeing another man after my husband and I seperated. I do not regret it. I am happy my husband and I got a divorce. However, if I am in a loving, good marriage then I don't think I would have an affair and if I did then yes, I am sure I would regret it.
2007-03-12 19:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by my_own_frog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd regret the affair but know that there was a reason for it and try to learn what I needed to about myself and my partner.
No one should be glad they had an affair. Even if they end up marrying the person.
2007-03-12 18:30:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have. I REGRET it! I talked to my granddaddy about this prior to ever doing it. He advised me NOT to go through with it...boy do I EVER wish I had listened! Talk about heartache!
An affair affects too many lives - it just doesn't involve you and the other person - you're talking families and friends, and the list goes on...
And, I can PROMISE you for the little bit of pleasure it might bring temporarily, the pain that you will feel seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, years afterwards is NOT worth it!
No matter how tempted you might be, no matter how exciting it might seem - I am encouraging you NOT to go down that path. Masturbate while thinking of this person if you have to, but DON'T give in to the temptation of an affair...it's NOT worth the heartache and memories of the ones you've let down - those memories will NEVER go away.
An affair will change your life, and not for the better.
2007-03-20 12:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by japanizationstation1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to ask your self this one question; Do I want to loose the life I have just for a quickie? Because you will, weather you regret it or not, you will never be able to live your life the way that it is now ever again. And if you put just two more seconds of thought into it... if you are thinking about this, why not just end the relationship you are in now, and become a male slut, that is obviously where your mind is right now anyway. Your actions of having this affair will ruin your lovers trust in you and the opposite sex for quite some time to come (if not for life)
2007-03-19 21:20:55 · answer #6 · answered by Winchester 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am glad, I have been on both sides. I was the married one having the affair. It showed me how bad and unhappy I was in my marriage. I have been the "mistress" also. I am still the mistress and I have learned alot from this mess. I honestly dont think people cheat on spouses if they are happy in a relationship. I have also been cheated on. I have come to realize if cheaters gave a damn about their partner they wouldnt have done what they did. It takes alot of courage to walk away. I am glad my man left me for another woman. It was the best thing he ever did for me. He started cheating on her not 2 weeks after the wedding!
2007-03-17 15:36:18 · answer #7 · answered by littlejaysmomma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess its called an affair because the person is married. I had many affairs but I was not married. The men were. I liked having affairs with married men as I DID NOT want to get married so they were a safe haven. I always encouraged them to go back to their wives and to do better with them and to make them happy. When I got married...I did not have any regrets as all my previous relationship ceased...
As long as the person owns himself, then he is free, but once you are in a marriage, its not just you in this deal.... thing must change...
2007-03-20 00:57:54 · answer #8 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regret it. Although you might find love, it costs a lot. The toll can be so much whether you stay married or you try and move into a new relationship. And if you have kids, you affect them. They might not know it, you might not know it, but in the future, you will end up revisiting your skeletons, because they don't stay in the closet. They quietly get passed on to your children and then they have to deal with those tendencies and weaknesses you had and failed to fix. I don't see how you can't have some regret in that mix.
2007-03-19 18:52:49 · answer #9 · answered by stormc2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife had an affair on me ten years ago. I have had an online only affair, with emails and cybersex. I don't regret my online affair, it was a very useful way for me to deal with my wife's affair. I am not proud of any of this, life is imperfect...and both my wife and I are good people who have endured and are happy together.
2007-03-17 17:40:24 · answer #10 · answered by Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well normally people tend to regret it. I had one but the guy was like an old love or whatever and i dont regret it. It was something special that happened but i told him it wouldnt be able to happen again. i guess it depends on the situation. But it is effed up if you do it with just some girl/guy. I´d say dont CHEAT you could be the looser.
2007-03-19 21:39:51 · answer #11 · answered by sissy90 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋