i dont understand, everything i work really hard at things i really want to be good at and i always fail things that i work at and i dont know what to do i just keep on failing things in life socail skills, sports, school and focusing on things that i should be focusing on things that i try to solve instead of failing.
i just feel really depressed and i dont know what to do in life to be successfull in life and im not really thinking of suicide just really confused and fusterated on where to go in life
2007-03-12 18:08:18 · 8 answers · asked by grahamgolf9 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Just by viewing your comment, I can see that by your use of the lowercase "i" to address yourself suggests you don't want to grow up or may feel anxious or lacking in confidence.
I am not quite sure what you mean when you say you "always fail" because that seems quite impossible. Naturally, EVERYONE succeeds at times and fails at times. And remember that a human being cannot succeed at everything he/she partakes in. By doing your best and knowing that you couldn't have done any better, then you can only be happy with yourself. If you feel and believe that you are happy & successful, then others will see it in you too.
P.S. You might also want to try meditation, exercising, taking a walk in the mornings/evenings, or acquiring a new hobby.
Experiment: While you are walking down the street, just a simple change like walking upright with shoulders back and chest out signals that you are self-confident -- notice how others treat you differently with your positive body language.
Best of luck to you!
2007-03-12 20:41:15 · answer #1 · answered by mint 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you won't believe it, the 16th president of the United States kept on failing things too before reaching the age of 52, or 54, sorry I don't remember. If you don't believe me, check out a Lincoln Biogrophy in the local library. Yes, he was Abraham Lincoln, the greatest US president in the 19th century. Ha ha, interestingly, he suffered from depression throughout his life. You will be shocked by what you can find in the book. I am in China. I am a big Lincoln fan. Whenever I feel down, I simply open the Lincoln Biogrophy and read it again and again. btw, Lincoln dropped out of school when he was still a elementary school student, and his wife Mary Todd was a *****. His parents were illiterate rude morons. At the early stage of the civil war, none of his cabinet members suported Lincoln or the war. You are probably more successful than he was when he was at your age. We all are.
2007-03-13 01:24:23 · answer #2 · answered by Gone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you well. Try to do things that you can do very well and those that you love. Do not do something because you see others doing it, you have to have passion for the thing you want to do. You can never fail at things you love. But it will take you time to excel in it. You should also change your way of thinking. You are what you think. If your thoughts are negative you will attract failure and negative ideas into yuor life. If you are positive (even after failing) you will attract success and fulfilment into your life. Its all in your mind!
2007-03-13 01:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by Sedo M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you expect too much from yourself. If you know for a fact that you did your absolute best, then thats all that matters.
No one can tell you "how" to be successful in life, were all looking for the same thing. If your really depressed, I suggest you join an evangelical church, youll make some really good freinds and hopefully see life in a better light..
goodluck!
2007-03-13 01:20:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be total stressed out & exhausted! Do things to the best of your ability. That itself is good enough. Don't expect perfection :)
You just need to find out what you're good at. That'll be a bonus. Failure is the stepping stone to success. Dont give yourself so much pressure. Take a break to hang out with friends once in awhile. Studying & no play, makes Jack a dull boy :)
Do things at your own pace. Success will come with perseverence. Just hang in there :)
2007-03-13 01:25:20 · answer #5 · answered by Shobha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang in there kid. sometimes it's better to try and fail then not try at all. you can learn some very valuable lessons for later on in life. trust me i grew up in the school of hard knocks myself. always remember there are many ways to measure success. try solving the smaller problems first and as your confidence grows the bigger ones will be easy.
2007-03-13 01:40:03 · answer #6 · answered by michael_6446 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the doctor. You may need some meds to get you out of your funk so you can concentrate on doing something with yourself.
2007-03-13 01:17:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
School and all is streefull... but if u are trying ur best that is all that maters, look for the things u can do..
2007-03-13 01:14:24 · answer #8 · answered by Kitten 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋