I took 3 at home pregnancy tests and all of them were positive. Today I went to the health department and they confirmed that I am 5 - 6 weeks pregnant.
I'm soooo nervous to tell the baby's father because we've been casually dating for a little over a year now, nothing too serious though. And it doesn't help that at the moment, we are not dating. How should I tell him that I am pregnant? I need some genuine advice PLEASE! I'm freaking out!
2007-03-12 17:53:43 · 24 answers · asked by Jennifer 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I just wanted to say thanks to everyone for your advice. You guys are really making it seem easier and easier. Thanks so much for your help.
2007-03-12 18:05:14 · update #1
Just tell him, "we're pregnant".
It's quick, it's simple, and it's honest ... something tells me he'll find out eventually.
Don't freak out! Everyone can be a great mom! Remember when you were young(er) and dependant on your mom? Now's the time that you can spend your life spoiling that little boy/girl. Just don't spoil them rotten.
And for God's sake, if you want a level-headed answer, do not listen to Colleen. She's pretty much evil. Look at her y! fan club!
Thumbs down for sure! She lacks any trace of tact, has the sensitivity of a blunt ax, and the personality of a rattle snake. Don't take relationship advice from an old hag who professes she is a man-hater. That can never be a great sign!
2007-03-12 19:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok calm down first of all, everything will work out just fine. Stress is very bad for you and the baby. Take a breath. Ok you need to tell him that you have something very important to tell him. ask him to meet you somewhere (you dont wanna tell him on the phone or online, bad bad bad) ne ways when you get there make sure he is sitting down. And tell him what you just said. say "I know this is bad timing, and things arent working out very well for us right now, but i have something very important that i need to tell you. Im 6 wks pregnant." make sure you tell him about the tests and the health dept visit. Everything will be fine. He might be shocked now, but if he is a good guy he will be with you through it all. Even if he isnt you HAVE to tell him as soon as you can, in person. He deserves to know that he is going to be a father. who knows he may be thrilled and take you out to dinner. good luck! Jes
P.S. someone suggested bringing the pregnancy test to show him. Well they arent accurate after 10 minutes, so that wouldnt help you very much. If he wants proof, get another test and take it with him there, or show him the ultrasounds if you have them. (bring them with you if you have them)
2007-03-12 18:00:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all....relax, do me a favor...breath in deep, breath out....one more time. Okay, worrying solves nothing and stress isn't good on the baby or on you so try and remain calm.
The best way, in my opinion, to go about this is to invite him over for dinner and tell him that you need to discuss something with him. It would be easiest on you to buy a little baby gift and wrap it up, the write him what you want to say in a congratulations card, give it to him at dinner and then discuss what he thinks. That way, he cannot interupt you and you're able to say what you need to say without getting emotional.
Hopefully he'll give you the love and support you need during pregnancy and to raise your new child. Congrats and good luck!
2007-03-12 17:59:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably the best way is just to be clear and honest. Sit down and tell him, "I'm pregnant." I don't think there's a delicate way to do it. He'll either be mature about it or he won't. It's not in your control how he'll act. You might bring the pregnancy test and show it to him, if you think it'll help. You might also try giving him some time to process before wanting to talk further. His first reaction isn't necessarily the only reaction he'll have (he might freak out at first but accept it later).
If it were me, I might go about it like this....
Me: "I have something to tell you." Show the test. "I'm pregnant. We'll talk about it later when you're ready." Then leave and let him process.
Good luck.
2007-03-12 17:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by Kari 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you need to think about what you want from him. Do you want him to be part of the baby's life? Pay child support? Be in your life?
Honestly, if I were in your position I would put as little pressure on him as possible. Just tell him you know you aren't seeing each other any more, but you just found out your were pregnant with his child and you thought he should know. Then, just go from there.
2007-03-12 17:58:05 · answer #5 · answered by lysistrata411 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell him straight up ,guess what Daddy.
or buy him a present ,with a baby rattle ,bottle ,diaper's or a teddy bear that Say's hello daddy.
or just remind him the night you did it without a condom.
or buy a picture frame ,stick the test you got from the health department as a gift .
use your imagination ,take him to maternity ward at a hospital 2nd floor ,and go see all the newborns .
2007-03-12 18:03:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make him understand that you two chose the method of sex that you did (I presume unprotected) and now you are going to have this little miracle to show for it.
You don't have to be gentle or harsh about it. You both made an adult decision.
Hopefully he will be happy about it. Just don't wait too long to tell him. It is better to get it out of the way as quickly as possible and know if he will support you through this or it you are going to have to go it alone.
2007-03-12 17:58:37 · answer #7 · answered by hollilynn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just need to come straight out and tell him. let him know that he is the father and you would like him to be a part of this child's life. don't say anything about child support, even if you plan to get him to pay. that is the worst thing to say. if you say that the first thing he will say is he doesn't even know if thats his baby. if he says that. just let him know that you know it his and if it will make you feel better you can have a DNA test done as soon as the child is born. good luck girl.
2007-03-12 18:02:47 · answer #8 · answered by hottie hot hot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him a card in the post about pregnancy and let him know that you are scared and this is not to pressure him into anything but as the father he needs to know and trust me once you get it off your chest it will make you feel much better that he know. better late than never or he finds out by seeing you gaining weight and then thinks its not his why you first tel him. Good Luck.
2007-03-12 18:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by Indian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sure it is in person. Only good way is to be in a room alone together and have a serious conversation. Be sure to explain your plans for the future that include him and what you expect him to do and what you would like him to do. Have a back up plan if he intends to run away. ex... getting a lawyer
The sooner you tell him the better
2007-03-12 18:00:22 · answer #10 · answered by iamspiderdad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋