i am so tired of my momm yelling at me. for instance, i'm on sprin break after a semester of hard work, so im tired. She is out of town, so she calls me and says "HAVE YOU DONE YOUR RESEARCH PAPER!! AND SAT STUDY!!" and its not that i dont mind, but im relaixin and she calls yellin at me, and im jus tired of it. So i say "mom, please dont talk to me like that" big mistake, she yells at me, cancels my date with my boyfriend for friday nite and hangs up in my face. so i call her bak, tryin to be calm. she refuses to answer. i then keep calling and she never answers. Finally she answers, after not letting me get a word out, and yellin at me, she hangs up in my face again. i call her again, and she answers and says "if u call me imma ground u for the rest of the month!!" and hangs up in my face again. i dont understand how my mother, who loves me so much, culd be content with herself treating me like this and then hanging up in my face. i wanna be strong, but i cant. i dont knw wat to do
2007-03-12 17:47:48 · 7 answers · asked by 8sweetestsins8 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well honey, all you can do is answer her calmly and even if you're not studying, just tell her that you are, it's better than getting into an arguement.......
2007-03-12 19:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by faiza_t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a retired counselor. I've seen other kids handle similar situations with their parents, some better than others. It won't hurt to get someone to help the two of you reconstruct and work on your relationship together if you both are willing, preferably not a family member or close friend. May be you have already done this. No one likes to be yelled at ...unless there is an emergency. You are dealing with an abusive parent. It won't get better until she does and you have to take the first step because she is out of control and your in control. Reach out to someone you trust. Get help now! Start feeling better about your wonderful self. You deserve better respect. Mom can be shown how to redirect her behavior and love so that it comes out to be seen as real love from a "real" mom that you hopefully use to know in times past. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Ed.
2007-03-12 18:15:19 · answer #2 · answered by Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what to tell you. Ive been working on that one for a LONG time! I guess its just the way they are. My mom is the exact same way... you try to be calm and not yell back but they never let you get a word in or tell your side of the story. I wish I could help but cant. Let me know if you find anything that works.
2007-03-12 18:17:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother obviously loves you very much and only wants you to succeed.
We, as parents, may be a pain in the A**, but that is our job, just as it is yours to drive us crazy with not wanting to work to your potential and have to be reminded over and over to take care of your responsibilities.
Your mother is probably also feeling resentful, remorseful and guilty that you are home and she is away working.
It sounds as if you are both doing your job--HAVE you done your paper and studies for the SAT's?
2007-03-12 17:55:18 · answer #4 · answered by smp1969 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Welcome to the club...unfortunately, moms know that they are no longer in control of their college kids' daily lives so they feel that they have to manage some aspect of their lives...so she yells at you when she really is frustrated with the fact that she's not as directly involved in your life anymore...or maybe she's just yelling. lol try to explain to her face to face that you don't appreciate her abrasive tone and that you want to communicate rationally with her..hopefully it will go over well.
2007-03-12 17:52:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! i swear to god my mom does the SAME EXACT THING! it is hard to get answers on here becuz people dont always understand wut the person is going through...wait.... my mom just walked in and yelled at me for talking to my best guy friend! he accidentaly hurt me and he doesnt kno his own strengh, so my mom gets protective and i can nver see him again! and he is the ONLY one who really lstens to me! i was thinking about cutting but he called and told me i would regret it aand i put the razor away... and this is all happening to me right now. would u look at that? she is yelling at me through the door. so i made my desision..... i will rebel... i am going to sneak out 2nite to see him! that is wut u should do! REBEL! u need to fight for wut u believe... well that is wut i am going to do.... my mom wont SHUT UP! gosh! but i cant say that to her! i will be dead! but anways
i think we should fight for wut we want! how else are we gonna make it?
2007-03-12 18:00:48 · answer #6 · answered by Lindsey T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slap the *****!
2007-03-13 05:01:41 · answer #7 · answered by catseyes1976 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋