She's married and unhappy with her husband. She's shown interest in me and vice versa...I don't want to get involved but she is a really special lady...I believe she should try to work out her relationship with her husband. I need some advice.
2007-03-12 17:38:37 · 18 answers · asked by jgmakeover 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't fool yourself. She is married, and no matter how you try to say it is ok to mess around with her, it is wrong.
2007-03-12 17:44:44 · answer #1 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you want to be an honorable man you will not pursue a relationship with this woman. Look at it another way and think how you would feel if someone had an affair with your wife. She might have instigated the affair, but what would be your opinion of the man? I would rather have a reputation as a good and decent man rather than that of a man that couldn't be trusted around married women. Also remember that this special lady(as you call her) is deceiving her husband by pursuing other men after making him a promise in her wedding vows - that makes her a liar and a cheater. How special is that???? It's not that I regard myself as perfect, but I did learn right from wrong unlike some people did growing up. Think before you act and remember there are always consequences to pay for your actions.
2007-03-12 17:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away - far away.
She needs to work this out with her husband first. If she wants to leave him - she should leave. She can't have both - you and him.
Trust me, if she's that special she won't look before she's divorced. If she's that special, she'll be there when the divorce is over. If she's that special, she knows she should get marriage counseling to see if her marriage will work or not.
Don't get in the middle. It will be a mess either way. And, don't by her abuse, neglect or need reasons to be with you - and trust me - you'll hear them. Women know how to play men...and we play them very well. Back off while you can.
2007-03-12 17:44:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You leave her be. Honor your belief that she should try and work it out with her husband. When and if she becomes "divorced" not separated, then you can show interest in her. Getting involved with her at any other time is wrong and immoral, a sin.
2007-03-12 18:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... I commend you on the mere fact that you beleive that she should work things out with her husband. You are right maybe she should do this. It is hard when you do have feeling for someone who is in love with someone else. I think you should tell her to work things out with her husband.
I also suggest that you do not become the shoulder to cry on or the ear to listen either. That could turn into something and ruin her marriage...
2007-03-12 17:53:41 · answer #5 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get involved with her, if she is going to sort it out or leave she needs to make that decision without having any other complications such as another relationship with you. Maybe you should avoid contact with her for a while and see what happens when you aren't around. You don't really want to be known as the man who split up their marriage do you??
2007-03-12 17:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women persons generally decide on men in line with many psychological factors (to no longer say seems do no longer count, yet character concerns extra). they might desire to place self belief in obscure "tests", learn how to appreciate the guy. while a guy is married or in a courting it shows that he has handed another lady's attempt. Marriage additionally is composed of a capacity for dedication and a few point of adulthood.
2016-10-18 06:09:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah she sounds real "special". Tell her you don't get involved with married women (she can get a divorce and then you may consider dating her) and you are not a marriage counselor (she can go get professional help and pay $100/45miniutes)
2007-03-12 17:46:09 · answer #8 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't be with her ... the husband may think everything is okay between them... so don't do anything until she has had that divorce because when your very unhappy you know to leave your partner. also she could be very on edge right at this moment so let her be cuz later on she might turn around and leave you heartbroken cuz you would have been her rebound...
2007-03-12 17:50:04 · answer #9 · answered by Danielle H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really do believe that she should try to work it out with her husband, then you'll stop all contact with her. No emails, no phone calls, no text messages...nothing. If you are out of the picture, she will be more inspired to work on her marriage.
2007-03-12 17:41:41 · answer #10 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run! Let her work on her relationship with her husband. Move on and find someone single. In time, if it is meant to be, you will meet again...after she is divorced.
2007-03-12 17:43:35 · answer #11 · answered by Maiden Fair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋