After being married for 15yrs, my wife had a affair at work . It was unique discreet as I wasn't aware of it for about 2yrs later. I not to worried after our 6yrs of healing i.e. church, she's unemployed 3yrs and a newborn boy who is 2yrs old. I think that I need to move on soon as she periodically says that she doesn't like me. Should I move on 14yrs, 2yr old boys...?
2007-03-12 17:38:20 · 11 answers · asked by Charles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
forgive her . and keep forgiving her . god forgives you every day . what she does is wrong and you may leave her but i say forgive her.
2007-03-13 05:16:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I dont want to tell you to move on after 14 -15years of marriage as well as having children.
Does she say that she doesn't like you during fights? Seems to me that sometimes people say things to hurt each other while they are heated. If she only says this when you two are fighting then I wouldnt take it as she doesnt like you. But I would mention (when you two are not fighting) that it does hurt your feelings.
Now if she cheated on the 8th year and now it has been 14-15 years. That means that was 6-7 years ago. The way you discribed it, sounded as if it didnt last very long. It also sounds like she hasnt done it again.
I understand totally that it takes a very long time to heal from being cheated on. Sometimes those things are in the back of our minds even though that you have healed and forgiven.
My biggest suggestion here is to not feed on these feelings. In fact, do something romantic together. As a mother of three children they do drain and sometimes you forget about each other because you are busy working and raising children. You two need to rediscover your marriage and the romance that you could have together. I bet..that if you two just said down and talking in a romantic setting it would make both of you feel better.
2007-03-12 17:49:05 · answer #2 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, you stay and work it out. She must like you a little, there are two kids there and you did something to her to cause that to happen. Figure it out and be the husband, don't move on. What do you think this is, easy? It is not easy on any of us men...lol really marriage is a test of character. Now step up and be the man, "for better or for worse". After a little while you will start to get along better and who knows, another baby girl. that is marriage, not running away.
2007-03-12 17:52:26 · answer #3 · answered by Patrick G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should be with someone that doesn't like them. Not even for the babies.
I'd recommend that you talk with a marriage counselor to find what you want. Then, if your wife agrees, she should go as well. She may be suffering from postpartum depression which is very common in women. A therapist will know for sure.
If it turns out she doesn't love you or like you - leave. Move on. But, keep contact with your children. They need you.
2007-03-12 17:52:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one deserves to be treated this way you should leave and find someone who truly loves you. Don't let her cheat you out of happiness and love. Yes it will hurt but in the long run you will be better off. You suffered enough its time you love yourself. Good luck..
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2016-10-02 01:00:45 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's very difficult. If she had the intention to build a relationship with the other guy and it fell through then she returned to you, how sad. if she made a mistake , had remorse, its odd she says she does not like you. good luck and follow your heart
2007-03-12 17:47:49 · answer #7 · answered by mizzmel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she has made it clear how she feel then there a good chance that she will stray again. time to let this go and find
someone that will want to be with you.
2007-03-12 17:46:19 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't stay just for kids divorce and get some one who will love you for your self
2007-03-16 13:59:53 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once this happens it will again move on you always wonder as to what she did to you on this matter . my opion?
2007-03-12 17:46:52 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋