Ok guys well.... uggghhh... my best friends mom just passed away yesterday and the funeral is on thursday.. im going to spend some time with her before the funeral... but like.. i dont know what to say you know... how do i approach her because her grandma just died 3 months ago too from the same thing ( heart problems) I just got over helping her cope with that and being by her side for that.
My friend is 18 and her mom was only 35.. *tears* This is the saddest thing what do I do???????????? How do i approach her and what should I say.. should I just hug her when I see her and cry with her or should I.....................?????
I remember when her grandma died and I came through the door.. and she looked at me and just ran and squeezed me so hard and just started crying.. omg Im tearing up.. because when she hugged me I felt her heart beating.. u know.. and I just broke down because she is going through the same thing again and her mom was literarly her best friend.
What to do??
2007-03-12 17:07:01 · 8 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just do what you said: hug her and cry with her. Hold her hand when you sit next to her and put your arm around her. This is so hard for her (and you) but it might even be a little bit different from the previous funeral because she has already experienced this once. I'm really sorry this happened to her. She's lucky to have you as a friend.
2007-03-18 05:31:35 · answer #1 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is right on this. All you can do, Sweetie, is be there for her. You must be one heck of a special gal and friend to feel the way you do. Sometimes just having someone there to lean on or cry with makes a difference.
2007-03-12 17:23:56 · answer #2 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just 'be there' for her, be a friend, listen, don't let her dwell on the darkness, get her to bring up fond memories
if she's crying, just reach out for a hug, let her into your arms and don't let up until she does.
2007-03-14 04:15:30 · answer #3 · answered by bilko_ca 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her. Talk her through it, help her through it. Through thick and thin be by her side. Follow your heart, it will tell you what to do. And ask God, He will lead you and her in the right direction.
2007-03-12 17:53:05 · answer #4 · answered by smokeyprine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there. Hug, cry, what ever...just be the real friend you are.
2007-03-12 17:13:38 · answer #5 · answered by xman77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt sorry for that.Just be there and listen to her when she has smth to say.tell her that everything is ok and your there for her always.Say sth positive,not negative.
2007-03-12 17:11:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not live her alone
try to company her when she needs you
if you cant do it alone try to be with her
with some other friends
i believe this will make her more comfortable
2007-03-12 17:40:37 · answer #7 · answered by 1111 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to say anything just be there for her and be ready to listen.
-NmD!
2007-03-12 17:11:10 · answer #8 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋