2007-03-12 17:04:20 · 21 answers · asked by Jen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well there are a couple of things that could be going on here.
First, I would suspect is that he is looking for sympathy from other women to see their interest in him.
The second possiblity, that he is looking around to cheat which falls in line with the first thing I said.
Here are a some things you could do
1. Confront him about it in a rational way. Not in the middle of a fight or when you two are upset at each other. That will blow up in your face and possibly hurt the situation at hand (bad talk) even more than it is. Sit down and just talk about it. See what he really has to say about his behavior.
2. Casually mention in a converation what cheating is. A little reminder of sorts. Then mention what respect is. That if two people truely love each other respect is very important.
3. Go to therapy together to work things out. Fix what maybe broken.
4. If none of the above work. You might want to consider seperation or divorce. The mere fact that he could do these things to you will mentally impact you and you may never trust him to respect you. That is IF..he fails to see where he has wronged you or the marriage
2007-03-12 17:36:30 · answer #1 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that your husband is up to no good I no this because my husband did the same thing .Come to find out he was having an affair with one of the women he worked with.Do you no that 90 % of all affairs happen in the work place.Everyone is on their best behavior and nice and looks good.If I were you I would be very worried about your husband. Odds are your husband is or getting ready to have an affair with a co-worker.I no you are saying to yourself no way not my husband.It's funny now I use to say the same thing about my husband I was in denial until I read a card my husband had in the trunk of his car he forgot to get read of. Boy did I feel like a compete fool.Just watch your husband very closely.
2007-03-13 01:19:48 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all he is showing total disrespect for you by talking about you to other women. That is just WRONG!
You really need to find out what is behind all this, sorry to say but it sounds like he wants you to look bad because he might have another woman and she is at his work place.
2007-03-13 00:10:36 · answer #3 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know he has been talking bad about you? No matter how you know it is not right for him to be talking bad about you to anyone, if he has a problem with you he should talk to you about it and not air your dirty laundry at work with the other woman. I imagine you are feeling quite hurt by this, I would tell him what goes on in your home between the two of you stays in your home and does not belong in his work place and if he has something to say, say it to you not the woman at work.
2007-03-13 00:15:42 · answer #4 · answered by celesta_palmer2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to question his love for you. A person that loves another person would never talk bad about them to anyone or allow anyone to talk bad about them. Counseling might get to the bottom of how he really feels and why he does this.
2007-03-13 00:11:35 · answer #5 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This means that he has no respect for you or your feelings. If he's is even discussing your personal business with other people, especially in a negative way, he is betraying the trust you are supposed to have between you.
I'd be pretty upset if I were you. Discuss this with him, and if he thinks it's okay to do this, perhaps it's a deal breaker! If you can't trust him, who can you trust?
2007-03-13 00:12:53 · answer #6 · answered by Plexed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he doesn't have any respect for you and evidently doesn't love you very much. Sorry but I don't think if you love someone you would consider doing such a thing. Your spouse should be your entire world and should be honored not ridiculed by you.
2007-03-13 00:11:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Openly ask him why, ask him if he is angry at your for some reason, tell him how it makes you feel and ask him how he would feel if it was reversed,
but don't use the "you" word a lot, reword your sentences not to be accusatory
and if that doesn't fix it, I would also suggest counselling
2007-03-13 00:26:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he either doesnt like u muchor he is jelous of u or he may b tryin 2 gain sympathy 4rom other women.find out soon &if the problem isnt solved try &get away 4rom him4 few days &he may come &confess
2007-03-13 00:30:36 · answer #9 · answered by vijaya s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably does not want to be married anymore. At least, when my ex did this it was because we were unhappy. Now, we are divorced and he is still unhappy. Talk to him about it and try counseling.
2007-03-13 00:26:31 · answer #10 · answered by Shanna h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋