He is persuaded by his families malicious gossiping that I have talked behind their back about each other. First, they all pulled me in a different direction about how each of the others treated them so bad; then his dad died 6 weeks ago; then he went to his mom's after freaking out when he got drunk one night and said we should split up cause his sisters wouldn't talk to me again. He has left to mom's 3 other times for a month for different reasons (I think he is binging on alcohol to comfort these situations). He only drinks like this when he is stressed out. I think he can't process US quickly cause it takes him time. He isn't a cheater. I just think his family has jealousy issues/I lost 120# and we all got along for 5 years before this happened. Help..
2007-03-12 16:58:04 · 5 answers · asked by bwitt321 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
don't act so innocent. you were in on the "little talks"
they just came back to bite you is all. you shouldn't have listened to the bs in the first place. what you should have done is excused yourself and said, "i really don't want to discuss this, it's really none of my business." but you didn't!
you are on a rocky road. that's for sure.
get togeather with your husband and stay out of the family problems!!! let him deal with his family by himself.
you may not be able to fix this one for a good long time, if at all.
i'm sure that your figure has nothing to do with what is going on. this is a family in trouble. not everything is about you. there has been a death in the family and they arn't dealiing with it well.
your bickering with your husband over his sisters is only adding to his problems. don't push him away now, or you will live to regreat it!!!
2007-03-12 17:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 00:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In laws are killers, so be a team player with husband and work on your communication skills with him.
2007-03-12 17:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind him that you married him, not his family. The same goes for him...you are his wife. He needs to either let his family go or go to his family...one or the other.
2007-03-12 17:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why do you put up with these game he said she said who care youre has wife he is to give up his famliy for you and you the same i hope you find what you are look for good luck
2007-03-12 17:13:31 · answer #5 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋