You have an ex that always yells at you. Never pays bills like she says she has. Yells at you for putting money in the bank. Then when you tell her to get out , all she ever wants is money. You have to do bankruptcy because she never did what she said. You have major surgery and she calls you in the hospital and asks when she is going to get money. After you are divorced she does not pay her bills and people try to sue you for her bills. When does she get the idea that she needs to take care of her own affairs?
2007-03-12 16:43:19 · 14 answers · asked by eagle_vision96 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Self guilt
2007-03-12 17:07:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her take care of herself. Get caller ID so you know when she calls. DO NOT ENABLE HER!! This just encourages her to keep going. She keeps calling you for money, Is this money she wants, spousal support or something? If it is not, then quit giving her anything. The less contact you have with her, the better. Also, spend a day and get everything you can off of your name. What bills are you talking about? There should be no reason why anyone is coming after YOU because SHE is not paying her bills.
2007-03-13 00:40:10 · answer #2 · answered by Gary M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you divorced or not? Part of the process, is splitting out the bills and such financial obligations.
You may want to get some new legal help to make sure her financials are separate since it sounds like your divorce lawyer never finished the job.
2007-03-13 00:10:15 · answer #3 · answered by Darwin C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you are saying, but in my case it was my husband. He cheated on me countless times, lied nonstop.
When I finally cheated and left him, he couldn't believe it. He said that I was better than that, to cheat on him.
After staying for 20 years of being cheated on and lied to, I was supposed to be better than that? Give me a F-ing break.
Now you would think I was the worst person in the world. How dare I get sick of him treating me like crap and find a better life.
He acts like I hurt him so bad and I'm the one in the wrong here. I guess I was wrong because I left for a better life. He never would've left me, he just wanted to cheat and lie the rest of his life and I put it to a stop.
People are such hypocrites and can never admit to fault. Happens all the time. Join the crowd. When he sees me, he runs the other way. I don't. I have nothing to be ashamed of.
Would you believe, my grandaughter just celebrated her 4th birthday. His ex-girlfriend who is 20 years younger than him and myself were there. He was too much of a chicken **** to even show up. Does this tell you how worthless he is? But, somehow he is bitter towards me? All I can say is Grow UP!!
2007-03-13 01:50:15 · answer #4 · answered by Karen H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dunno Hun, are you sure you did not marry my husbands ex..........sounds JUST like her...we are still sorting out the BS she left and the ones she keeps trying to make since the divorce...............basically IMO she feels that she is owed an easy ride for the rest of her life and has never worked and does not see why she should start now, and the HER 3 kids that he also took on and supported are JUST the same way.
Just be grateful that she is no longer in your life and pick really well the next time around, there are good honest hard working women out there that all they want is to make a good life with someone.
Regards
2007-03-12 23:51:25 · answer #5 · answered by candy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being an enabler, don't take her calls unless there are kids involved (then talk about the kids only) Get "your" affairs in order. Let her handle her own, stop giving in, she knows how to play you, and she sound like an MVP.
2007-03-12 23:50:23 · answer #6 · answered by Vegas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will never get the idea, so get that thought out of your head. Someone like that will be a swindling self centered opportunist forever. You didn't mention anything about kids, but it sounds like you don't have any with her- be glad for that, you can pretty much break off all contact with her, dig yourself out of the hole and then do your best to forget that she exists.
2007-03-12 23:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by Jason 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my my my, like this just started happening over night. bet she was this way right from the beginning.
you picked her.
now that the dust should be setteling, the divorce is over and the settlements have been made. stop taking her calls!!!!!!
pay what you need to pay and move on.
and above all, do not enable her in any way!!! she created her hell and now she can just go and live in it.
2007-03-12 23:59:36 · answer #8 · answered by KRIS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one enjoys be wrong, certain people will never accept fault. I simply cuts the calls, messages and unfortunately, my credit hurt but 8 years later, he has new victims and left me ALONE
2007-03-13 00:01:44 · answer #9 · answered by mizzmel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are bitter because they were under the impression that they wouldn't ever become ex's even though they were doing wrong.
2007-03-13 02:45:36 · answer #10 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋