She has decided this in the past, and then sent gift to EVERYONE but me. I don't want a gift, but I think if she makes that decision, she should stick to it. My husband disagrees and says she'll do whatever she wants and he can't control her and he'll still send gifts to her if he wants. I feel like he's slapping me in the face and not standing up for me. What would you do? What do you think?
2007-03-12 16:32:19 · 12 answers · asked by shygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sheesh ... You gotta get over these mother inlaw problems. It's much deeper than a gift giving or receiving issue. Good Luck!
2007-03-12 16:36:37 · answer #1 · answered by lag_time2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is your husband's mom, then he has every right to celebrate her birthdays, etc. I do know how you feel, however. It isn't that he isn't standing up for you, he loves his mom.
The two loves are different. He really shouldn't be asked to take sides on this. If your mother in law sends everyone else gifts but you, then you shouldn't feel obligated to send her anything. You can simply ask your husband to sign a gift card along with his gift to her, from him. I am sure she will get the hint.
2007-03-12 16:41:14 · answer #2 · answered by Diane V 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Touches my heart. My hubby's mom seeks to control as well. I have learned to be quiet and let him see her play the game. You will be fine without her gift, she wont be without her son and you and her grands if or when you have kids. my hubby and I went through alot of issues and while he is really 102% in a better place, I wasn't his mom's choice so she throws a wrench every chance she gets. let her have the gift, in the end she will loose.
2007-03-12 16:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by mizzmel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's his mother, don't knock heads over this.
if she doesn't send you a gift, so what!!! is this a life or death thing for you???
i'm sure there are better things for you to concern yourself with. to hell with her!!! and if your husband sends her a gift don't you sign the card indicating that the gift is also from you!!!
2007-03-12 16:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your mother-in-law is old enough to do whatever she wants to and you nor your husband can control her and your husband can sends gifts to her if he wants.
You are being immature......grow up, smile and ignore her.
2007-03-12 16:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She just can't let go that you are the one taking care of her baby boy, who cares if she doesn't send you a gift, if she sends one for the rest of the family think of it as something you don't have to buy them now. Your husband is just trying to avoid confrontation since it doesn't seem like a big issue for him. He doesn't see any competition with you both, so he lets it slide.
2007-03-12 16:39:39 · answer #6 · answered by Vegas 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The issue is much deeper then just the gifts, sounds like she wants the control. I would not let it bother you. Don't respond to her she is acting like a child. If your husband wants to still give to her let him it doesn't take away from you. He is married to you and she is just being mean.
Don't let her get to you... Don't let anyone live in your head 'rent free' She is jealous..
2007-03-12 16:43:55 · answer #7 · answered by Mel 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your husband is right: "she'll do whatever she wants and he can't control her". I'd ignore the whole silly thing and not allow her to cause you/your husband arguments over HER.
2007-03-12 16:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
id tell her keep her gifts you didn't ask for them she can throw them in dumpster for all you care tell her to use one of the gifts cram it in her ***
2007-03-16 16:22:44 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you didnt want any gifts it dosent matter also u can always borrow your husbands gifts
2007-03-12 16:37:34 · answer #10 · answered by amanda d 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋