Here is the deal: I was top of my Lawschool class, had a great job and then I decided to start teaching instead, sacrificing a great salary for personal satisfaction. I don't regret it one bit. I have helped some of my students overcome things like anorexia and insecurity, but every time my brother calls he says that I am a waste of intelligence and that I shouldn't have gone to Law School only to end up being a teacher.
It hurts like hell, not because I regret my choice, but because he basically thinks I am a loser and a waste of talent.
How would you tell him to just lay off that topic?
He does the same with the baby issue...I am trying to conceive and he calls me every month to see if I am pregnant, which only makes it worse, cause it is beginning to stress me out.
2007-03-12 16:24:46 · 6 answers · asked by White 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can only try so many times to tell of your happiness in your life decisions an or choices. Do not, as I do, grow an ulcer worrying over how to please others, you know you are doing right and good and if others see money or higher position in society more IMPRESSIVE then try to let it pass and do not bring it up until they do, which they will, and then tell them you know they dont approve of your life / decision and wish not to bore/ torture them with the details. I am hoping this is going to work with me in getting my point across in my kind of like situation. Be brave, you know you are right in what you do, dont be led otherwise.
2007-03-12 22:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by Yo Mum Mum 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him at calmly as possible "Joe, I know you love me and you are trying to look out for my best interest, but I feel hurt when you say those things. How can we move past these topics and get to a place where we can feel good about our relationship again?" Good luck. I know sibling relationships can be 'interesting'. Inasmuch as your the baby, you may just have to choose to let it go in one ear and out the other. Even at 44 my siblings (who are at least 10 years older) seem to think I can't grocery shop, rent a hotel room with a credit card or other similar things that I've been doing for 25 years.
2007-03-13 08:29:29 · answer #2 · answered by comet girl...DUCK! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk to him on the phone anymore. That is what caller I.D. is good for. He can't see the expression on your face. And you are used to him, until you are on the edge. Your joy is in teaching, but not in your brother. He needs a good teacher like you. Forget that he is your brother, and use some of your great techniques on him. Or, kick him to the curb. Your choice. LOL
Tell him knock it off, it's a load of B.S...same genes..you've got his number...
Just call him UNCLE, or try to make him say uncle. Brothers just do that when they love their sisters. They forget we are human. "Throw me a doggie bone"
2007-03-12 23:45:20 · answer #3 · answered by gypsyworks 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no real way to tell someone you love that they are hurting you. Don't yell, just tell him why you went into teaching instead of law. If he doesn't see you reasoning, tell him you don't want to talk about it with him anymore because it is stressing you out.
2007-03-12 23:28:45 · answer #4 · answered by dancemusicalsdance 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like ur career choice makes you happy and therefore he should be happy for you. If what he does upsets you, you should tell him in a calmy manner. I wish you luck and I hope yawl can sort things out!
2007-03-12 23:29:53 · answer #5 · answered by princessamber_89 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweet cat, don't try to be sweet. Just tell him up front: "as of now, those topics are off limits. I will *tell* you when I'm pregnant, and my job choice is mine!"
What, did he want you to support him? (Mine did, made him mad as heck when I got married!)
2007-03-13 00:34:43 · answer #6 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋